will he ask me out or what

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Registered: 08-25-2004
will he ask me out or what
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:40pm
ok...i dont know what to do or say...

i met this guy 2 months ago, when he asked me to go to a party with him...that day he didnt try anyhing..then we went on a date..and he kissed me...

its two months later..and we dont talk about it being a BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND relationship..everyone just assumes that we are together, becasue we hold hands and kiss in public.

everyone says that we are boyfriend and girlfriend, even though he hasnt asked me out.

i dont know what to think, and im scared to bring it up.

we are at that point where if i were to date someone or he would date someone, it would be messed up.

what should i do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:59pm
buttrflys...

After 2 months...why not gently ask the man if this relationship the 2 of you have IS MORE THAN FRIENDSHIP? He'll certainly tell you one way or another. From what you've indicated...the man seems to like you....but how much? Only he knows for sure. SO ASK HIM!

The question is....if he has no intention of getting "REALLY SERIOUS" with you...can you handle the possibility of being rejected or replaced by someone else?

Pianoguy (who hopes the answers he gives you are all POSITIVE!)

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 5:50pm
Wow I hate having to ask that question. But you need to to find out obviously. Good Luck I hope you get the answer you are looking for
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:11am
i dont know what to tell him...it s just going to be too weird or embarrassing...

i dont know..im very shy wehn it comes to that...how would u feel if u were put in that situation...?


tell me what u think wouldnt sound too serious..for u

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:17am
butterflys, just casually bring it up at some point. I know it's hard, but the next time you two talk just say, "so what's up with us? are we just friends or what?" or jokingly bring up how everyone thinks you are dating and see what he says in response to that and just let him know that you're confused since you two haven't talked about it and everyone thinks you are a couple. I've been there myself just recently. If your bond of friendship is strong enough, it shouldn't ruin what you have if he just wants to stay friends. He may just want to let things happen the way they will.

Anyway, that's my thought.

jebestar
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 10:15am
buttrflys...

The previous response from jebestar is exactly what Pianoguy would suggest. It isn't necessary to make a big deal out of asking...BUT ASK!

While it's obvious that you're nervous about the answer...build up your courage, look the man in the eyes, smile...and ASK HIM!

Good Luck from...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 11:15am
it's always nice when the guy is the one to bring up your relationship status, but in your case, it's been 2 months and he hasn't...so I would bring it up if i were you. i would do it in a casual manner, maybe even say it in a loving, playful way. hopefully this will get u ur answer. maybe he's just too shy to bring it up! good luck
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:11pm
If this guy means so much to you, why are you so scared of him? Look him in the eye and tell him how YOU feel about him. Then ask him how he feels about you. You don't have to be *asked out* to just fall into that boy/girl friend role.

Good luck!

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:50pm
ASK HIM!!!!! just tell him how you feel or bring it up in a conversation. Say people think were dating and see what he says. If he doesnt say anything just ask him!! And if he says no you arent dating say well why not?!!!!