PAINFULL TO BREAK UP WITH HER
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PAINFULL TO BREAK UP WITH HER
| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 6:16pm |
i really want opinions. ok this is it.
been going out with this gurl for like a year now(college). pretty nice and understanding person. we started arguing a little bit often than usual but it really did not cause a lot of confusion. well the thing is i was away for the summer and when i got back she said she wanted us to stop the relationship. before then we did not call each other as often . i did not like how she did somethings without letting me know (no.. i was not demanding anything much..she said it).
the thing is that.. she says she is scared of wat might happen ..that i may not like her again with the way things are going... she knows i like her and she said God know she does too and that i'll probably be the best boyfriend she'll ever have (that i have everything she wants). she says she is a little bit selfish (i dont thin so)and used to being independent (yes)and she know she is not really ready to change that and that she does not want her being indipendent to hurt me. (i had also been thinking about all this but i did not think breaking up will help .... donno why she thinks it will.any way i could see she's been crying and i know she wont be herself if we continued.. besides two of her friends just went through thesame thing so i know she is scared and just want to be alone.
well i told her i'll agreeto break it (but in my mind i did not really want to). she wants us to be very good friends but i said that might not happen.. she even told me to at list say hi to her when i see her but i said.. it will be hard for me.. because i still like her and still want her as a gurlfriend.. i wont be a ble to do the lets just be friends thing and that i'll try my best possible not to get in contact with her cause it will hurt me.
it's been two days now and the only thing i can do to get her out of my feelings is to think about her as a bad person who does not care.(thats probably wrong but icant be her friend ).. (EVEN PEOPLE THAT I'VE TOLD ABOUT IT SAY. WE ARE LIKE THE PERFECT COUPLE AND THAT THEY DONT THINK ANYTHING CAN BREAK US APART)
WHAT DO U REALLY THINK I SHOULD DO
been going out with this gurl for like a year now(college). pretty nice and understanding person. we started arguing a little bit often than usual but it really did not cause a lot of confusion. well the thing is i was away for the summer and when i got back she said she wanted us to stop the relationship. before then we did not call each other as often . i did not like how she did somethings without letting me know (no.. i was not demanding anything much..she said it).
the thing is that.. she says she is scared of wat might happen ..that i may not like her again with the way things are going... she knows i like her and she said God know she does too and that i'll probably be the best boyfriend she'll ever have (that i have everything she wants). she says she is a little bit selfish (i dont thin so)and used to being independent (yes)and she know she is not really ready to change that and that she does not want her being indipendent to hurt me. (i had also been thinking about all this but i did not think breaking up will help .... donno why she thinks it will.any way i could see she's been crying and i know she wont be herself if we continued.. besides two of her friends just went through thesame thing so i know she is scared and just want to be alone.
well i told her i'll agreeto break it (but in my mind i did not really want to). she wants us to be very good friends but i said that might not happen.. she even told me to at list say hi to her when i see her but i said.. it will be hard for me.. because i still like her and still want her as a gurlfriend.. i wont be a ble to do the lets just be friends thing and that i'll try my best possible not to get in contact with her cause it will hurt me.
it's been two days now and the only thing i can do to get her out of my feelings is to think about her as a bad person who does not care.(thats probably wrong but icant be her friend ).. (EVEN PEOPLE THAT I'VE TOLD ABOUT IT SAY. WE ARE LIKE THE PERFECT COUPLE AND THAT THEY DONT THINK ANYTHING CAN BREAK US APART)
WHAT DO U REALLY THINK I SHOULD DO
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| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:07pm |
Hon, this is a difficult situation for you. You have to decide if you can be friends with the woman you love OR move on. She seems confident and somewhat controlling, as she told you "to a list" what to say whenever you see her. This attitude doesn't seem to relate to a person who cares for the other's feelings. I'd be honest with her and ask her not to contact you, as you need time to get over her you can be only a friend.
