Advice Needed!!!!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Advice Needed!!!!
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 12:51am
I really like this guy that I have known for 2 years, problem is every time I get around him I get too shy to talk (I have never been shy with anyone!) He is a wonderful man and he is older than I am (23 and 28) I am very good friends with his family and we have a lot in common. But I have never really had a convo with him ~ and he hasn't had a date in a long time! Any suggestions on what I should do?

Please help!!!!

thanks in advance!

Lisa

blueyedtrouble@comcast.net
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Registered: 07-30-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 1:21am
Hi Lisa,

It happens very often that we like someone so much we get shy around them & don't know what to say (or worse- constantly say something stupid lol)...

so here's what I found that helps in these situations:

before you meet him again, you have to work on thinking about him as a good friend- nothing more. it's always easier to talk to friends than it is to potential dates, & that way he gets to see you for who you are. the less you think "oh, I like him so much!", the easier it would be to talk to him.

other than that, think of things you'd like to talk to him when you meet, so you'd have some topics in your head. get some conversation starters memorized.

make sure you won't have to try & come up with a good topic on the last minute. that always makes things harder.

once you "get the ball rolling", just go with it. try to have fun without worrying too much about what it leads to.

hope this helps,

Best of luck,

Annabelle.