Lost luv life,

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Lost luv life,
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 10:55pm
Ive been going out with my girlfriend for a little over 10 months, the past 2 months however she hasnt wanted to have sex or fool around, shes even said that she doesnt like kissing me anymore. Im only 17 and shes 16, some might say we are 2 young 4 this stuff, others that we are at our peack sexual life. My concern comes from that we have been fooling around for atleast 7 months and i never thought we had any problems. She says she still loves me and that she just doesnt ever feel like fooling around. I care for her so much and i would stay with her 4 ever evan if we dont gain much of a love life, its just that i feel that she has lost her feelings for me. Other then that we have had a few problems but still enjoy our time together, we see eachother atleast once a week by ourselfs and nerly everyday at school.

What should i do? and how should i react to this?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: new2luv
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 10:25am
new2luv...

Pianoguy doesn't want to pick on you, but have you ever considered the possibility that your 16-year old sex partner WANTS A LOT MORE THAN THAT! Maybe she feels that the only activities you have together (as a couple) take place in the bedroom?

While YOU may be perfectly happy with this arrangement, I'll bet she's getting pressure from her parents and friends to DUMP you? And frankly...she might want to "free herself" in order to date other men who MAY have more to offer her than you do?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: new2luv
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 8:05pm
Thanx for ya reply. well I didnt mean thats all we do/did i mean yesturday we went to golf, we watch a lot of movies together, go into town ocasionaly, gone out to dinner quite a few times, invite each other to family events, I help her with her homework (quite a lot), we were really good friends for about 6 months before we went out. Our whole relationship seemed perfect to me 4 the first year we new eachother. She says to me that im her best friend...atleast where we live she has a good friend who moved away. As 4 her mum... i think she likes me and wouldnt pressure her into dumping me plus she doesnt know that we have had sex. Its not like i always asking her to fool around, tis usaly after we watch a movie, after we have been cuddeling. However this is all from my point of view, i suppose she might see things ur way :/ So your advice would be? Just forget about sex for a while and try and do some couple things alone.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: new2luv
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 4:23pm
new2luv...


Pianoguy suggests that you ask your g/f:

1. Are you happy with "us" right now?

2. What would you like me to do that I'm not doing?

3. Is the SEX making you uncomfortable...or worried that you'll end up pregnant? (Of course...you can always follow this up with...ARE YOU PREGNANT?).

4. Would you feel better if we gave each other "a little space" from each other?

Those are 4 questions you can ask her...but I'm sure you can think of a few more?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-22-2003
In reply to: new2luv
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 4:59pm
Harkening back to the "Jimmy" episode of Seinfeld, I just have to ask... why does Pianoguy talk in the third person?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: new2luv
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 7:00am
secretiger...

Pianoguy was NEVER a "Seinfeld" fan..."but there's nothing wrong with that!" (Sorry Jerry)!

In an earlier posting on one of these boards, I explained that this was my writing style. 3rd person to first person...and occasionally back to 3rd.

And I'm sure if any of my former English grammar teachers are still alive...they'd make a big deal out of it!

Pianoguy.....who, by the way, thinks your name is very cool and mysterious!

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Registered: 08-07-2004
In reply to: new2luv
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 3:45pm
LOL at the "sexual peak" you may be at yours--but hon I know for a fact she wont reach hers until she's in her 30's or 40"s! :-)
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Registered: 08-27-2004
In reply to: new2luv
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 3:47pm
Spend less time thinking about her puddy and more time on thinking about what you are gonna do with your life. Sex is not the most important thing, and because she does not want to do it does not mean that she does not care about you. Maybe she is thinking smarter than you like " Damn what if I get pregnant" Sex is a very grown up act with very grown up consequencses. Be a kid as long as you can because once you have kids you're an adult. Or at least you will be expected to act like one. Not to mention STDs. If your needs are that ugly.... you can always relate to yourself!!