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| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 8:29pm |
I have comfortable, happy life with lots of freinds and everything I need. I know who I am, and I like myself. I tossed the baggage of the past out years ago, and I've done pretty good since then. I get along great with guys, and often hang out and talk to them at a party, not with the intention of picking them up, but just because I feel more comfortable standing around the keg-erator in the garage enjoying a tasty home brew and talking about the Simpson's.
I don't really need anything from a boyfriend, I just want an accomplice in mischief who'll stick around for more fun, and maybe watch some DVDs and make some pizza in the meanwhile. Pretty simple. Trouble is, most guys I meet, especially as I get older, really want a girlfriend who will soon become a great wife and mom. They're sweet, and I respect that life, but it's just not for me. I will be on a beach sipping an icy cocktail when I'm older, singing jazz in a Japanese nighclub, on a Walkabout in Australia, not tending to grandkids. I want a best friend I can have hot sex and adventures with, not somebody to pay my mortgage (they should be able to pay their own mortgage, though).
I can't be somebody I'm not, and being alone's no injury, but it would be great to have a buddy for those road trips. What do you think? Do all guys want a family at my age, or are there some still out there appreciate a free thinking, fun woman?
-Leela

So, yes, for sure they are out there...we need to trade dates, it sounds like ;-).
Sheri
P.S. I also want the hot sex and adventures (I'm a goer and doer also)...I don't see marriage as precluding those things in the least.
Edited 8/29/2004 8:47 pm ET ET by northwestwanderer
Anyway, I wish you good luck - there are lots of those guys out there. Maybe you could take the initiative and ask the ones out taht you see as being potential fun. Those kinds of guys like a girl who takes initiative (I think)
I just had my heart ripped out by an A-Hole that I spent 6 1/2 years of my life with, thinking he was going to be the man I married and had children with. Turns out he decided he didn't want those things anymore and that you're the kind of girl he's looking for. If I wasn't so sure you two would live happily ever after (which would again, make me vomit), I'd give you his number.
Rhandi
My advice(what I do, anyway), would be to ignore the guys who seem really interested in you and are chatting you up. Look for the unassuming ones who are looking at their shoes when you walk by. Those are the good ones who actually like you. Don't ask them out whatever you do, but stand around talking about cars or something non-threatening long enough so that they can stammer it out. No matter what guys say, they like to be in pursuit, never pursued. Then, if things go well, refuse to move in or let them keep more than a toothbrush at your place. Don't call them just to "talk". Don't make a point of dressing up for them. Don't buy them stuff you think would look cute on them/in their house. Be completely uninterested in making long term plans. Tell them you don't really know that you want kids. Refuse to meet their parents. That should have them proposing in a few months:)
My advice(what I do, anyway), would be to ignore the guys who seem really interested in you and are chatting you up. Look for the unassuming ones who are looking at their shoes when you walk by. Those are the good ones who actually like you.
Something about your 2 posts are inconsistent...
You say you want a man who doesn't want a relationship, but then you ignore the men who are chatting you up.
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