commitment problems?
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commitment problems?
| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 10:20pm |
i have an awful problem. I love being around guys and usually i pick out 1 guy that i really like and i FLIRT. I mean flirt like crazy, to the point where the guy can't not like me then we end up going out a few times and when they finally say "i want you to be my girlfriend" i back out! I get afraid of having a boyfriend and i shy away after losing all interest in the guy. I leave myself feeling crappy like i've lead him on and he's depressed and confused. The trouble is i can't control it at all. this is the reason im always single. it's caused me to get a bad rep. as a "heartbreaker" and a "tease". i can't go on doing this to these guys- i need help. my friend said that i may have commitment problems, ill take any advice-what do you think?

When you get a little older and have experienced a lot of different things, you will know what you are actually looking for and when you find it you won't let it go.
Alison
The only problem I see is if you just want to have fun, and a guy you are flirting with wants to get serious. That does not mean you have a problem or that he does. It could be a problem if you try to establish a relationship when it is clear you have a mismatch.
So my advice... be clear on who you are, what you want, and where you are on the relationship/committment continuum. Once you are clear, make that clear to others.
Don't let anyone convince you that you have a "problem." Decide that for yourself. If you determine you do have a problem, decide how you want to address it.
A~