Why is he doing this?!?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2004
Why is he doing this?!?
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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:40am
I posted a message before that I meet a guy one night then spent the night with him the following night. Now, he calls me and leaves messages for me, but we have yet to have a phone conversation since we last saw each other. His message sound so normal as if he was interested and he really wants me to call back, but when I do I get his voicemail, I leave a message and the cycle starts again. I haven't seen him or spoken to him since we last saw each other. He has multiple opportunity to leave this alone, but he keeps calling and leaving messages for me to call him back. I do call back, because I like to see him again, I thought our night went well and his messages keeps confirming that he would still be interested. I don't know how to take this. I want him to stop calling so I can stop returning his calls. I need a clear sign that he is definitely not interested. It's my fault cause I want him still and each time he calls I return his message. What is he doing?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:53am
How long has it been since you last saw each other?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:57am
I last saw him on Friday 13th of August, last spoke on the 14th on the phone and last emailed on the 20th. All the rest have been phone tags with each other's voicemail.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 4:15pm
hmm.. I had a similar experience with e-mail tag... i would write or call and he would write me back.. saying he would call but never did. After 4 months of this he finally told me to move on.. I wished he'd been honest at the beginning but I believed and hoped the emails would turn into more..

I would say he is up to something else - dating someone else maybe, and keeping you on teh back burner.. that sounds terrible, I know, but one possible explanation. the fact taht he does call is good... but you keep missing the calls? Is there any way u can tell him a specific time to call and definitely not miss the call?? If he doesn't call you then.. he will purposefully trying to avoid you.

try it!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2004
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 3:01pm
I actually told him a time to call and he said he would call. We communicated through email to set this up. I told him this yesterday afternoon and told him to call me after 7pm. He agreed to call after 7pm, but he did not. Why won't he just stop communicating with me if he's not interested? I've given him many opportunities. I want more but I'm not letting him know this. I don't get him and he's making it worst.