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| Tue, 08-31-2004 - 10:14pm |
all right i asked this q earlier and no one replied so i guess i'll try again. I've been interested in this guy for 5 years and never did anything until December of last year. I put a note on his car telling him how I felt and signed w/ my email address. After he found oyut I was the one who wrote it he told me to call if I wanted to get lunch. he was pleasentand we set a date but for some reason it never happened. I didn't call again and he didn't contact me until July. He emailed asked for a date. when he called me he stuttered alot and kept saying oh man I don't know etc. when the day came around to go out he called once but I wasnt there and he didn't call back. So i called and rescheduled. He somehow knew where i lived before I told him. The date went good he was smiling alot and laughing and convresation was decent. At the end he told me "thanx 4 going out w/ me so call me well I don't know if you want to, you can call me sometime" and kissed me on the cheek. So I calleed him a few days later and asked if wanted to go out out again sometime and he said 'sure why not" so i told him i would call the next day, well i forgot but then i did call him on the day of the date but his cell was off so i tried agin later and no one answered. He was home because he only recently moved two houses down from me. But two weeks later I emailed him and said "so i guess its safe to assumeu didn't like me let me know if i'm wrong". He emailed back and said "no not at all your assumption is totally wrong you never called me on that friday so i thought you didn't like me". So again he was pleasant in the emails and even a little flirty but when the day came that he was suppossed to call he neverdid. He's not getting anything out of lying to me and I get the impression that he's a little socially slow. I never see him leave his house unless to go to work or with a family member and i know he hasn't had many girls. Could i be right or is he messing with me for some strange reason?
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| Tue, 08-31-2004 - 10:43pm |
Sounds to me like he is really, really shy, and somebody here has to take the reins! The fact that he called you and went out with you more than once tells me he likes you ... alot! You are both waiting for the other person's approval and you are forgetting to give it! Don't assume because he didn't call you that he doesn't like you...Assume that he does and tell him you think he is a wonderful person and make him feel like a million bucks! We all need that. If you make him feel great you will become very important to him. Perhaps he is a little socially inept, maybe he just does not know how to act...Help him! Go for it!
| Tue, 08-31-2004 - 10:55pm |
This post was much easier to read than your previous one. All those texting abbreviations are confusing. Anyway, I think your impression of him as socially slow is right on. He also sounds insecure and clueless. I don't think he's messing with your head intentionally, it sounds more like he's wishy-washy and scared. But the bottom line is that you've initiated just about every contact and date from the beginning, and he hasn't reciprocated nor did he call when the ball was in his court. He sounds like a loser - you should move on.
