does he really care????

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Registered: 09-01-2004
does he really care????
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 4:11pm
I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months and things seem fine, but i cant tell if he is really interested in me! When we are together things are great, we laugh and have fun and never wants me to leave, but when were not together he can be a little distant and he is not the type that just comes out and tells you how he feels!! any suggestions on how i can get him to open up or figure out if he cares about me??????
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 4:43pm
Well, if he's continued to call and ask you out on dates for two months, he's clearly *interested*! The question is, interested in WHAT? Rather than asking him how he feels about you, I'd ask him what his r'ship goal is, and share yours. That might spark a discussion.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 5:39pm

Hi


A few questions: Do you talk on the phone (though don't use this as a gauge, alot of guys hate the phone except to make plans), how often do you see each other? Does he act very interested in your life? Share his? Has he introduced you to any of his friends? Met yours? Has he had serious relationships? Is he eventual goal marriage? Has he suffered a bad breakup that's left his scarred?


Two months is a short time and it does take alot of people time to warm up, talk about their feelings. You said he treats you well and hates for the evening to end. That's all good. Don't push him but don't date for a really long time without seeing where things are potentially going either.


Good luck


Sherry

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 6:10pm
He calls all the time, i talk to him at least onec a day and he goes to see his father out of town every other week and he calls when he is there and keeps me informed of where he is at so that isnt a bad thing at all. He has a daughter with another girl and he has taken me to her house and we are out alot so i know he is not trying to hide me or anything like that, i just want us to communicate on a mor intimate leverl. its like we never talk about really serious stuff and i cant tell if there is a long term future in us but i hope so!