I gave him my number?

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Registered: 05-29-2004
I gave him my number?
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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 11:20pm
I met this hot guy at the gym. Im just so physically attracted to him and he caught on and approached me. We locked eyes during our conversation and he says "we should get together sometime. Do you have a number i can reach you at"

I somehow felt i was caught off guard and i gave him my number without even thinking about it. He didnt call me. We spoke when we seen eachother at the gym, and a week later when we spoke again, he asked me "what are you doing this weekend" I said i dont know. He then asked me out! I dont know why i actually gave him my number. He asked me out and i wanted to so bad, and i had to tell him NO which sucked. The reason is because i have a bf that im seeing but not so sure of. I told him that i have a bf, and he had this strange look on his face.

We seen eachother again a few times after he asked me out, and he just walked by and didnt say anything to me, but tonight he said hi as he walked by, and asked me how i was doing.

Im just confused :(

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 11:43pm
Sounds like you got exactly what you wanted from him - his attention and expression of interest in you. Receiving this made you feel great and desirable. He took the next step by taking a clear action to ask you out. But you have a boyfriend so you declined while telling him you have a BF. Most men would have a strange look because of your inconsistent behavior. Most men would think - why give me your number if you have a boyfriend, especially in a flirtatious context and after he suggested to get together sometime.

I doubt he will continue pursuing you but will likely still be friendly with you should you bump into each other again at the gym.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 9:01am
I think figuring out what is going on in your relationship might be the first step before giving your number to other men.
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anonymous user
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 9:39am
You're confused? Imagine how this guy is feeling also.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 10:12am
I am in the same kind of situation. My boyfriend is a really great guy, but really hard to read at times. He tends to be a little selfish in the fact that his friends and himself come first and I am next whenever possible. We have only been dating about two months, so I am just trying to wait it out, its still too soon to ask for more time from him.

And like you I met this guy. I have known him for about 6 years but for reasons we could never hook up. We talk all the time and we email each other at work. Where I have gone wrong is we have kissed a few times :( I have found that if I am open, and just say I am seeing someone right now, and I don't know exactly where it is going...if the guy is interested he will let you know. It really sucks. But be honest with people, it makes you look bad if you are not. Good luck with your boyfriend

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 10:46am

You guys were just flirting with each other at the gym... there's no reason to put any more thought into all this.


This guy asked for your number during an episode of flirting, but he didn't call because getting your number was just part of the flirtation.

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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 10:57am
This is very logical. Makes sense.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 12:56pm
Too funny, wasn't *Faboulouz* just saying he asked a girl at the gym for her number, which she gave him, but when he asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend?

Maybe it was the two of you!

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