What do you guys think

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Registered: 07-02-2004
What do you guys think
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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 7:58pm
Guys or Ladies if you want to add your input...answer a question for me.

It is said that there is a huge percentage of men who are in a "commited" relationship, married or just commited that do not stay faithful. Is that really true?? It is also said that men will lie about being faithful and then stray anyway? How close do you think the statistics really are? Would you commit and then still look as well or would you simply be honest and say...I can't commit "or stay faithful" and expect women to be ok with that?

The reason I ask is that my friends and I have noticed that there is an increasing number of men that just openly admit that most men can't stay faithful and it is better to be honest about it rather than the other men that make tons of promises and shatter hearts. Is that the society that we are living in now? Do men actually get what they want by admitting this or is it all talk??

Just curious...from the man's point of view.

katlc

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 9:58pm
Being commited to a partner means that a person is obligued, exclusive and faithful to another person; therefore, a person who is in relationship/married who cheats is not commited. A commited relationship involves exclusivity, faithfulness, honesty, sharing of values and principles and respect for the other to name a few. That's my view in all. Being commited to a person and a relationship depends on the man's or the woman's character. People who cheat do it because they can. That has nothing to do with stats.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 9:00am
katic...

Pianoguy has never been crazy about statistics...especially when it comes to cheating on a spouse, g/f or s.o. Every man's reason for straying can be different. THIS DOESN'T MEAN IT'S RIGHT OR ACCEPTIBLE!

Speaking strictly for myself, I think there are a lot of men who try their best to make a woman happy, but despite their best efforts...they still get some sort of flack! After so much of this we get frustrated. And this results in some of us attempting to find a lady who won't constantly complain about the stuff we DIDN'T do, the stuff we DID wrong, the hobbies or friends WE have, or just VENT angrily. . I guess the 'joys' that are supposed to come from "making the commitment" gradually disappear?

Believe it or not...MOST men WANT TO COMMIT to ONE WOMAN. There's comfort in knowing that we have a special lady who can accept our good and bad sides...and still LOVE US! The 'players' usually aren't interested in being married...unless it's for breeding an heir?

Just my thoughts....

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-02-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 3:27pm
It's encouraging to hear that there are some men that are of the opinion that there is one out there for them or that there are some men who have enough respect for someone they are very interested in to have a relationship and expose their good and bad side to. I do realize, in the defense of men, that women do this as well and in some cases even worse because some would try to take men and their money.

Thank you for your input that MOST MEN want ONE women. I hope your opinion is among many...it's very, very scary to look at it out there now, at my age. Starting over and not wanting to be alone forever yet not wanting to compromise the way I am when I had been out of the loop is frightening. Good to hear that there is hope...the world of relationships is not what I thought it was this day and age, maybe I just didn't realize it when I was young before I got married...or maybe I've grown up a little and the "rose colored glasses" came off so to speak.

Thanks again,

katlc