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| Fri, 09-03-2004 - 8:54am |
I dated a man for almost 3 1/2 years. During that time we split up a few times for a few weeks or even a couple months once. In May we ended things again. A few weeks later he met someone and started dating her. Not long after, I met a really great guy who I really like and treats me well. When the end of the summer came both he and the girl my ex was seeing left to go back to their homes, several hours away. All summer, my ex and I have remained friends and he has recently been trying to work through a lot of things, mainly why he kept pushing me away all these years. He's come to realize he really cares about me and broke up with the other girl so he can figure out where he wants me in his life. I'm very confused now and told the guy I've been seeing that I need time to figure out what's going on with my life. I thought at this point my ex and I were going to work on seeing where we need to be in each others lives. A week ago I found out that the other ex is coming to town to visit and spend time with him so I'm just really confused about what's supposed to be happening. Is it reasonable to sit and wait for him to figure everything out, or is it past the point where that should be acceptable? Also, I'm not sure how I feel about being with my ex knowing that he spent a couple months with someone else. That's what I was hoping to find out this fall, but when he goes to spend time with her and comes back I can't get the image of them together out of my head. I kind of feel betrayed eventhough he was never with her while we were together. Has anyone else ever been in this situation, and if so, does that feeling go away?

Have you ever heard the expression: "There are people who come into our lives for brief intervals...and then they disappear?" Pianoguy thinks this is what's going on with the EX of 3.5 years.
The 2 of you have had "an up and down relationship"---and I guess this can continue another 3.5 years? But do YOU want it to?
If you aren't 100% clear about your feelings for the EX (irregardless of whether he spent time with another woman)...why would you want to continue seeing him at all? You've made an effort to move forward in your life...why go backward?
Pianoguy