Should I go..should I stay???
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Should I go..should I stay???
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 12:08am |
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now and I can safely say that the relationship does not feel the same. I met him when I was 16, and at that time he was 19, at first my love was strong for him, but then again I thought he was perfect and different from other guys. Then as time progressed between us I started noticing his lies and the way he treats me. I have to constantly tell him to stop disrespecting me; and it is worse whenever we argue. So I started pulling back from him and he noticed so his love increase. He talks about having kids with me and getting married, but i don't trust him and can't see a future with him. I want to date other guys b/c I'm still young,but i cannot manage to leave him alone and it's driving me crazy; its like I want to be with him but then again i don't. He gives his word about situations in the relationship (disrespecting and controlling his temper) but he always seems to go back on his word. I don't know what to do whenever i try to leave him alone he cries (literally) and swears that he is going to change. Also there are so many signs that he may be cheating on me (again) but i don't if it is me jumping to conclusions: he is moody, he gets mad whenever i don't believe him about a situation or if i second-guess him. Honestly i don't know what to do, should i stay with him hoping that he going to change or leave him alone. At this current time he doesn't have a job, car or a high school diploma, but whenever he get something (a car or a cell phone) he acts funny with me and i was with him from the very beginning. Help me!!! I don't know if he is cheating...should i leave him...or should i just stay??? Am I wasting my time??

It is typical for guys to cheat on you and dispect you, and then when you start to leave, they begin to shower you with affection and even cry. This is the abusive seesaw. Be extremly wary of his temper which he may use to control you. This is how domestic violence starts. It escalates from verbal abuse. Please get some support from friends and family and leave him. By all means, do not bring children into this situation. That will not change him at all.
Jessy.
The confused feelings you are experiencing are part of the abuse cycle.
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