Is this Normal??

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2002
Is this Normal??
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:47pm
Hi everyone! I have a question for you all..

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, we have a GREAT relationship. We are very much in love and happy. He has a few really close friends that are always over his apartment. And of course, i am always there aswell. So we've all sort of become friends. Out of all his friends, he has one in particular that i talk with most. He isnt as attractive as my boyfriend, and he isnt my "type", but for some weird reason, we flirt innocently and always seem to joke around with each other. And then last night, i had a dream about him... that we were making out and promising each other to not tell my boyfriend. I dont know if this is normal, or a subconscience idea that is telling me i am attracted to this friend.. In reality, i know that my boyfriend is great, good looking, fun..etc. So why am i dreaming about his friend??

Thanks everyone!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 3:26pm
Dreams are not reality. Sexy dreams don't have much, if anything, to do with the person involved with you in the dream. Dream research suggests that everyone in your dream is really YOU. You may have just been horny, and the "person" could have been anyone including a stranger, or a completely inappropriate sex partner such as a relative. That doesn't mean you subconciously want to have sex with stranger or a relative. It's just hormones, and you probably talked/flirted with him or thought about him however fleeting the day of your dream. Keep in mind that no one person can be ALL of the things you like in people. Your friend's personality is different from your BFs, he amuses you, you like each other and that's perfectly normal. Nothing to worry about.