When he stops calling cold turkey

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Registered: 09-07-2004
When he stops calling cold turkey
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 7:58pm
I really need help, my ex-bf and I had an affair for about 5 months when he told me he was getting married next year. I was hurt and heartbroken to say the least, however we still continued to speak on the phone but the calls change from him calling me everyday to me calling him every other day, I guess I know that he moved on but the thing that bothers me is he just stop calling me and when I call him he'll talk a few minutes and then say he will call me back but never calls. My question is how can I move on without confronting him, I just think he should have been man enough to say "hey please stop calling me".

What do you think????


Edited 9/7/2004 8:05 pm ET ET by dlrdiamond

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:22pm
He doesn't "owe" you any explanation. YOu were sleeping with him knowing that he was with someone else, and was "committed" (by his definition) to her.

He's just done "sleeping around on her with you" - he was never "with you" - he was always with her. That's why he didn't initiate hte contact, that is why you two couldn't go out in public, etc. etc. etc.

He figured, if you're callinga nd you want some - I'll oblige you. he's now serviced you to the full extent he desires to do so - and he's done with this, period the end. You're now a risk and a threat - whereas at one time you were a titillating diversion.

Erin

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