...what was the point in this??

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Registered: 03-31-2003
...what was the point in this??
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 4:08pm
I don't understand men at all. Go figure.

Had a first "meeting" with a guy last week (Thursday eve). We had fun. He walked me to the subway and then said "I'd like to get together again. What are you doing this weekend? Why don't you give me a call?" I didn't call but was going to get in touch with him on Labor Day...Anyway, he calls me Sunday early evening and left a message saying that he "had a great time on Thursday night and I wanted to see if you wanted to get together again sometime early week." I called him back Monday afternoon around 3 pm and he asks me out FOR THAT NIGHT. Now, I'm all for spontaneity but this was the long weekend winding down and I wasn't up for a first date just yet so I suggested why don't we get together one time this week. He said Thursday. He said he'd call me Tuesday to firm up the plans. Tuesday as in last night. He never called.

Should I assume we are off? Why did he bother telling me he'd call? Why act so anxious to see me and then blow me right off? Any thoughts??

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 4:32pm
Well he probably thinks you arent interested.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 4:42pm
I called him back and I suggested one night this week...he said a day and I said "Great!" I think that show's that I'm interested.
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Registered: 04-23-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 5:54pm
I am all for doing what you say you'll do when you say you'll do it. He should've called Tues. However, I think you need to cut others some slack just the same. When he told you to call him over the weekend did you tell him at that time since it was a holiday weekend he'd probably not hear from you until Monday or anything like that? He probably waited all weekend to hear from you and true, that's not your problem. However, now the shoe's on the other foot and you're the one waiting and you're complaining about it. I'm not saying he's doing it on purpose b/c guys don't usually play catty little games like that. But perhaps he got busy and couldn't call, or something happened, or he forgot, or he just decided to step back and not appear so eager (maybe he got some bum advice from someone telling him to do so). Not sure why you ask "what's the point in this?" Um, the point is that he's trying to get another date with you. You don't know why he didn't call so take a deep breath and chill until you find out. Good luck and I hope he calls with a good excuse (but then doesn't prove to be unreliable in future).