He hasn't called yet, what do I do???

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Registered: 09-08-2004
He hasn't called yet, what do I do???
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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 12:57pm
Hi everyone. I need your help. Well I met this guy this past weekend. I am 23 and have dated alot in the past. This guy has won me over and I have never felt like this about a guy before in such a short amount of time. He's the exact opposite of what I normally go for, hes shy,laidback, and romantic, but i think that thats what I've needed all along and just never realized it. So the problem here is that we hung out all weekend. He doesn't have my number because I didn't have my cell phone on me so him and my friend exchanged numbers so that we could keep in touch over the weekend. He kept telling me to make sure I gave him my number, ect ect. before I left his place. Don't get the wrong idea nothing happened. When I went to say goodbye to him he was half asleep. I told him to call me soon and he said ok I will. But he still doesn't have my phone number. We're going on to almost 4 days now and I thought he'd call my friend and ask her for my number which he hasn't yet. I know he's shy because it took him 4 trys just to come up and talk to me the night we met. But do you think he's waiting for me to call or should I hold out for a couple of more days? I really like this guy and don't want to lose him but I also don't want to seem to desperate when he said he'd call me. What do I do?????
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 1:36pm
You are assuming that he is going to prioritize chasing down your number and that your friend will be immediately available and willing to give it to him. He may have a very busy life and hasn't made the time yet to track you down. The way things are set up he has to do a fair amount of work and chasing people to find you. Who knows maybe he has contacted your friend and she has refused to give him your number - anything is a possibility at this time.

Do you have any contact info on him? If so I strongly recommend that you contact him and give him your contact info. I also find it odd that you don't know your own telephone number to give him. He would likely think that is strange too and that you may be purposely placing a buffer against him.