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Not Sure What to Think?
| Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:49am |
I have been dating Mr. Wonderful whom I met through my Parents Without Partners group. We were friends first and have been dating since January. He has all the qualities I'm looking for and I'm hoping he's the one (we've talked marriage but we're not rushing things). The problem? He's a bit of a flirt - which I can handle to some degree. The other problem? He is friends with another lady in our group - they dated a couple times in July of 2003 and she decided she didn't want to pursue anything further with him - they decided to be friends. However, when they get around one another at our group functions and it's like I don't exist. Two of my other friends in the group have said they don't trust her. My female instinct doesn't trust her either - especially when she's been drinking as she tends to get a bit wild. My boyfriend says he loves me and sees us having a great future together as do I. I trust him - but my female instinct is telling me not to trust her. Maybe I'm hung up on this because he tried to pursue a relationship with her. I've confronted him about the flirting before and he said they're just friends and nothing further would ever happen. I am trying to get past this and not be so insecure but it still bothers me - should I let it ride or confront him again.

I think you will need to just be a little aggressive with this woman to get her to back off. Chat her up, be in her face so that she can't be all over your man. Ask her if she's dating any men, and then you can casually drop in how long you and your man have been together now.
But really, I know what it's like to be with a flirt, they are like that with everyone though and you just have to trust them a little that they know who they're going home to. But I think honesty is the best, and let him know what does bother you.
Good luck,
Alison
I have a question...is it her or everyone in his past that makes you uncomfortable? How is he with other women, flirty or just nice?
He does have a friend he met in college - they never had the opportunity to date as each was dating someone else. At his son's birthday party in July, he went over the top with the flirting with her as far as I was concerned -then we went to another party at a friends house where the first women I was talking about was there and the flirting continued. I was at my wits end by then with the all day and all night flirting with his women friends so at the end of the night, I really let him have it. So,the whole flirting thing has been in the back of my mind ever since.