To Ugly To Date
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To Ugly To Date
| Mon, 09-13-2004 - 3:57pm |
I am turning 40 next month and am one of those unfortunate women who was born an ugly duckling and never became a swan. I have several defects that cannot be corrected by medical means. I grew up ugly, never dating, never got to attend prom or any other dances. I spent my time with abusers and users, because being ugly - well, any attention is better than none. I eventually wised up and quit being with men and put myself through college in my 30s. Again, no dating. After college I finally met a man like myself, homely, never married, no children. I knew he had some problems but he was good to me, and I hoped to be married before age 40. After he proposed, he freaked out on me, presenting me with a pre-nup that was so one-sided (his way) and he was so determined to have full control of everything that I had to back out of our engagement. Of course, he brought up that I'm ugly, and that he was my only chance of ever getting married, that no one else on earth would ever have me. He said I should be thankful for his "rescuing me" and that I should just do as I was told. I didn't, and now I'm alone, uglier and miserable. College didn't help me; I believe my looks keep me from getting top jobs also. I have failed at everything except college, and the older I get the uglier I get. Women who never married by 40 never will - all the experts say so. In a world where looks are more important than money, I feel like I am God's cosmic joke on earth. I'd appreciate hearing from anyone who has problems with their looks like I do and how they cope.

Sounds like the guy you were with is 100% a jerk and I'm glad you didn't give in and marry him. He said those hurtful things because he was mad and knew what would hurt you as you had hurt him. Some people are like that.
I really hope that with a different outlook you will find someone who you can fall in love with. I wish you the best of luck!
Alison
I am truly sorry you feel this way about yourself, hon.
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