really be friends?

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Registered: 07-27-2005
really be friends?
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Fri, 03-17-2006 - 12:01pm
Well, I dated this guy for about 5 months before we break up because I was moving away for school (4 hours), but we still keep in touch talk over the phone, etc. My friend said we're doing the pseudodating. Then about a month or so, he visited me and we get back together. We talked on the phone once a week, visited each other when we can. There are days that I feel that I'm putting more effort to this relationship than he does. But I can't really say that he doesn't like me he still calls me every week or even more sometimes. I did a little test of not calling him at all and he still calls. Then, I weigh in the pros and cons and so I decided that if this is the way things are, we should just be friends, because I want more than what he's given me. We talked and he said that's what he's trying to do in the first place. I can kind of see where he's coming from, we both are still pursuing school and we both don't know where we'll be. So now, we are just friends, we still call each other about 2-3 times a week. My question is, is it really possible that one day we both will get back together? I am so tired of breaking up/getting back together with the same guy, yet I am waiting for him. I read somewhere that I should just have no contact with him, but I do like talking with him and I think he does too. By the way, this has been going on for about 7-8 months. I am really afraid that one day I'll hear that he has a new girl and I won't be able to accept that. The thing is I think he likes me but can't commit now. Advice?
Thanks
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 2:03pm

I guess my question to you is how is this so different from a long-distance relationship?

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