Lost & Upset

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Registered: 03-20-2006
Lost & Upset
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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 6:33pm
I started dating this guy a little over 5 months ago. I told him from the start that I did not want a relationship and was not looking for a boyfriend. We have basically been sleeping together from the start but we have never comsumated the relationship...all oral (very strange). When he is with me he is very affectionate and loving but after he leaves it's like outta sight, outta mind it seems. He doesn't call unless he wants to see me, does not return any text messages or even acknowledge them or emails. Mostly everything is on his terms. I have grown to become crazy about this guy, probably because he is unattainable for the most part. He says that we have a sexual commitment, I'm not so sure he remains faithful to me but I have been to him. I decided to tell him last night that this relationship does not work for me anymore. He said, OK, thanks for telling me and got off the phone in a hurry, then blocked me on his buddy list. He is obviously upset with my decision. I would like advice on how to handle it from here. After he cools off and decides to call me, I see him in a social setting, etc, etc. I really, really like him and I think he truly likes me too. How can I change the dynamics of this relationship that I now want?
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 7:36pm

Hi, I hope you're doign ok.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 9:11pm
Sorry to say this, and I know this isn't what you want to hear, but he blocked you from his buddy list, because he figured "no more fooling around. No need to keep this friendship". You said everything was on his terms and guys like him only stick around as long as things go the way they've always gone. The minute you try to change the terms of the friendship, they go AWOL. They will not talk or cry or beg. They just move on to someone else.

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