why doesn't he call?

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Registered: 03-21-2006
why doesn't he call?
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Tue, 03-21-2006 - 11:39am
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months and it has become rather serious. He always tells me that he loves me and that he really means it. He also always tells me he will call me later, he promises me, and then he never calls. Sometimes he doesn't call me for several days. Am I just too imatient or is it something else?
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 11:56am

I think his behavior is very inconsiderate.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 12:01pm
Many guys are just not phone people. But if you tell him how much it bothers you that he says he'll call and doesn't, he will probably make some compromises. This doesn't mean he'll turn into a chatty patty on the phone, but at least he'll check in with you every other day.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 1:35pm

He's shown you that he's not a person who keeps his word. That is extremely important to me, so I value it in a partner.

Personally I don't think it's about impatience or not being a phone person...it's about him not doing what he says he's going to do. Is that something you're ok with in a partner?

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 4:35pm
You've been seeing each other long enough to bring this up, for sure. Not in an acusatory way but certainly if he says he is going to call and then doesn't, well you'd rather he wouldn't make the promise rather than break it.
He's probably not even aware it's something he does that bothers you so you should let him know. All best
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:33pm
Yes, I'm a firm believer people should be their word.
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Registered: 03-31-2006
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:55am
I know exactly how you feel. My bf of 7 months does the exact same thing. I am very big on respect and owning up to promises made. It's so inconsiderate of him to do that to you. I found a solution to my bf doing that to me, but I don't think many people would find it to be mature. Depending on how many times he does this, then you should really take into consideration whether or not you have the patience to deal with this type of behavoir. Since men are typically creatures of habit, you can bet that unless you actually work with him on this, he'll just keep doing it.