I can't tell him I love him
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I can't tell him I love him
| Wed, 03-22-2006 - 1:40am |
I feel INCREDIBLY dumb for asking this, but I really have come up with a total blank here...
How do I tell my best friend I'm in love with him? I mean, yeah, in theory, all I should have to do is say it. However, we all know reality never works out like that. I just can't. Every time I make up my mind to say it, my brain starts spewing out every possible doubt and reason not to. I get tongue-tied. I can't think. I end up looking stupid and feeling like I'm back in highschool.
Sometimes I feel like I just want to give up trying to say it and go back to our usual routine: We feel stuff for each other, but we never say a word. We've been friends for a long time and I don't want that part to change. But at the same time, this is driving me mad. I keep thinking about how great life would be if I could just tell him. I can tell he loves me too, but hey, he's only 19 and I'm 37... Chances are, he's not going to say anything unless I do.
Now, you see the problem? I can't SAY it. Oh, in my mind I can form a really good, long speech to him about how much I love him. Then when I actually see him, it all vanishes like a puff of smoke. If anyone has ANY advice at ALL, I'll take it.
How do I tell my best friend I'm in love with him? I mean, yeah, in theory, all I should have to do is say it. However, we all know reality never works out like that. I just can't. Every time I make up my mind to say it, my brain starts spewing out every possible doubt and reason not to. I get tongue-tied. I can't think. I end up looking stupid and feeling like I'm back in highschool.
Sometimes I feel like I just want to give up trying to say it and go back to our usual routine: We feel stuff for each other, but we never say a word. We've been friends for a long time and I don't want that part to change. But at the same time, this is driving me mad. I keep thinking about how great life would be if I could just tell him. I can tell he loves me too, but hey, he's only 19 and I'm 37... Chances are, he's not going to say anything unless I do.
Now, you see the problem? I can't SAY it. Oh, in my mind I can form a really good, long speech to him about how much I love him. Then when I actually see him, it all vanishes like a puff of smoke. If anyone has ANY advice at ALL, I'll take it.

I can surely understand your problem, I was there myself. I finally said it. I sent via a text message one night, at the suggestion of another guy whos a friend. We were texting back and forth and I finally typed those words in. Well text replies stopped coming!! Actually the phone stopped ringing too for a few days. I panicked and cried like a high school girl!! After a few days he called and now he wanted some space. GOOD JOB RIGHT??
Well it all turned out in the end, he took his space for about 24 hours, and then came here for dinner and told me he loved me. It was a long week, waiting on that response.
Moral of the story, dont hold back what you feel for someone. You have to take risks as Ive been told by many posters on this board.
My concern is was that a typo or is he really 19 and your 37? Im not juding you, but I cant imagine what you would have in common with a guy that much younger than you. How in the world did you end up in a situation like this anyway? I have a son 21 years old and cant see him with a woman of 37. Sorry if that hurts but I just dont understand the attraction.
I have a slight concern about the age difference, too.
So my advise to you is go for it the worse that could happen is that he does not feel the same way as you. And at that point you could just remain friends if you think you could handle that. Keep us posted and good luck