dating and kids

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Registered: 05-19-2004
dating and kids
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 11:03pm
Hi everyone,
I am 37 yrs and recently divorced. I have two kids, 9 and 8 yrs. Does it make the dating prospects difficult if you are a mom as opposed to not having kids? Are there certain types of men that you can say will not be interested in dating a woman with kids? Should I be interested in dating only men who have kids??? How does it go? Any advice appreciated.
Thanks
tsvs2004
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tsvs2004
Fri, 03-24-2006 - 2:46am

tsvs2004...

Pianoguy thinks whom use choose to date and whether the man is comfortable around your children pretty much determines the success (or failure) or any dating experience.

While some of us might LIKE or LOVE you like crazy, a few often become a little slighted when you're constantly bringing up activities your children did...or vocally worrying about them during a date? It's as if we're taking you away from people YOU'D RATHER SPEND TIME WITH?

Other men enjoy the stories you share that are either connected with your children or other family members. Many of us will usually ask a few questions...or possibly offer a personal comment or two?

While we certainly don't expect to have 100% of your attention if you choose to go out with us and leave your children at home for a few hours, I think the question that often pops into our heads is: "Is this lady actually having 'a good time'...or would she be happier at home?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-29-2004
In reply to: tsvs2004
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:41pm
After my divorce almost 3 years ago I posted an ad on match and listed that I have children, so they knew before they contacted me and to be honest if a man could not accept my kids I wouldn't be with them anyway. I have several guy friends that are single parents and don't like to date women that don't have children, so I guess it really depends on the person. It does make it more difficult when you are a mom because we can't just get up and go when ever we want. I would schedule my dates on my weekends (every other) without the kids until I dated someone for quite some time before letting them meet my children (12 & 8).

 

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: tsvs2004
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:15pm

It' s ok to date men who don't have kids but you certainly want them to like kids - particularly yours!


Then there's the issue of do they want some of their own eventually,and how do you feel about that?

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