Crushes

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Crushes
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Sun, 04-02-2006 - 5:16pm

I posted this on my "other" board, but thought I'd post it here, too, because I'm feeling quite down about it today.



::sigh::


So I have another crush.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:00am
I wish there was something I could say to cheer you up. I've had my share of crushes and/or unrequited love. I don't necessarily think that's what's happening with you, though. It sounds like he isn't really settling on anyone right now, just being casual. That in itself is probably a selection process. I wouldn't take it that "he's just not that into you" necessarily (sp.). It doesn't sound like he's made-up his mind yet, however. So you're going to have to be patient. That's not all bad. I personally prefer knowing a guy casually before we get involved. I don't like having to wonder what he's hiding from me about himself because he wants a relationship. Do you know what I mean? It sounds like this guy has some things going for him. One is that he doesn't have to hit on every woman in sight, nor does he have to pair off immediately. I think you just have to wait and see, show your interest and hope. It's not like you had a dating relationship where he suddenly stopped calling regularly or that, which would indicate he's just not that into you. You just have to try to show him why he'd want to pick you. That can be tough, but generally liking someone is a BIG draw for them. So you have at that going for you and he did say he liked you. Try to think positive. We tend to get what we expect. Good luck!
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Registered: 04-15-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:49am
At least you're talking to your crush. Mine won't even say a word to me, even though he "looks". Argh!
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 8:55am

Where do you know your crush from?

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Registered: 04-15-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 9:39pm

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We’re in the same adult ed class at uni. I keep waiting for an opportunity to get him alone for a minute, but he’s always busy talking to someone else. I’ve noticed the "looks" months ago – like, even when he’s talking to someone else, he’s looking at me. And, if I leave the room, he’s looking toward the door when I come back. But he’s never said a word. Probably because I’m quiet and shy. I’ve often been told I’m "intimidating". I hate this so much.

Anyway, the class will be over in 2 weeks, so I might never see him again. Le big sigh.

As for you : I know you’re scared, but I think you should ask him to dance! What have you got to lose? You already know he likes you. When are you seeing him again?

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:15am
Well, if he's out tomorrow night, that will be the next time I see him.
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Registered: 04-07-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 3:49pm

I use to think the same way until a co-worker of mine found out about a crush I have had on a another co-worker for close to 5 years and took it upon himself to fix us up. (He is my crush's immediate Supervisor). This happened in November and my crush and I, albeit taking it very slowly, have become great friends and working towards being more. I have not had a date with him yet as he is a bit shy and divorce ravaged. I can see him progressing nicely and now when I see him (he works on the other side of the floor) I have butterflies in my stomach. We spend a lot of time on the phone and his self esteem is pretty shot and he's gained some weight and knows that he needs to work through that in order to be a better man for me. It is no secret that I like him and he has recently begun to grow a beard that he was going to shave until I made it perfectly clear that I absolutely love it. (He is hot with a beard with the gray and dark hair mixed) Not sure what the future holds but having my crush find out the truth was the best thing ever.

So be optimistic and I say go for it.

F