Need Advice To call or not to call!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Need Advice To call or not to call!
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 12:26am

Okay, I'm in my early thirty's and to say I don't get out much is an understatement. Saturday night my friends and I went out to a bar. I got very very drunk. At one point I went to the bar to get another drink, couldn't find my friends when I came back, and when I finally found them I gave somebody my last drink and cut myself off. I told one of my friends not to let me out of her sight again (because I was wayyy to drunk) and she agreed. So we are just hanging out and this guy comes up to me and wants to dance....I ran away. I told my friend, "this is why I don't have a boyfriend, I am a chicken!" She said, "just dance with him its no big big deal." A few minutes later I found my way back to this guy and well I didn't really dance with him....I made out with him! So my friends pulled me away from him after a few minutes. All through the evening he and his friend would come up to us and his friend would try to convience my friends to let me go back on the dance floor with this guy. My friends thought they had the situation under pretty good control. They would let me make out with the guy for a little while then they would pull me off of him. They certainly weren't going to let me leave with him in my condition. He did ask me if I wanted to go home with him and I said no I was too drunk.

Now to the point of the post! My friends got the guys number. Should I call him or no? My issue is this, on the don't call side I am not the one night stand kinda gal I might have made myself appear to be on Saturday, he might be thinking I'm really trashy, and that was really really unusual for me. On the call side we obviously had chemistry, he was good looking, he had a good friend who stuck by his side all night and really impressed my friends, it's possible that my friends might have done the same in my favor (I think they made it very clear they were going to protect me). I think if I'm going to call I probably should do so soon so please give me your opinon.

Really folks I'm a disaster when it comes to this stuff this is the first guy I've kissed in three years! I really wonder what he must think of me.

I hope this post makes some kinda sense!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:42pm

Well, this situation is pretty simple. You go drunk by choice and made out with a guy. That night, your friends played the game of "letting you make out for a few minutes and then pulling you off the guy". Now, you're friends got his number because you were too drunk to ask for it. You're worried about thinking the guy might think you're trashy if you call him, but you liked the guy and would like to call him.

The fact is that this guy may not be thinking much about that night, but the fact that he had a good time. He's an an adult and is entitled to make out. You were there. That night there was no compromise or responsability to one another. You both wanted to make out and you did. There is nothing wrong with that.

If you decide to call him you could expect him to ask you to get together for more of the same or more. Or on the other hand he could turn out to be a nice who'd like to date you.