dating dilema..is it time to go?

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Registered: 04-05-2006
dating dilema..is it time to go?
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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:34am
Been dating a guy for about a year, no commitment other than if sex with others is occuring the other partner needs to know. Often lets me know that I am not a girlfriend but when I am with him he treats me like gold and we see each other often and talk almost daily. I am in love. He knows that. For him this is transitional. Do I end it now? Or enjoy it while I can?
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Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 7:51am

You've got to do what is right for you but personally I couldnt be anyone's transitional girl. If you love him already but know its not going to go anywhere, I would get out now and try and save on some of the heartache you are bound to feel. Then take some time to yourself before getting out there again and finding someone who is able to commit to you 100%, like you deserve.

It would be ok to continue if you didnt have such strong feelings for him but the fact that you and he doesn't, doesnt make for a very balanced relationship and it will be you ultimately that ends up getting hurt. Gather up all your strength and end it now.

Big hugs
xx

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 10:35am

After a year, you are in love, he is not.

I would say it is time to extricate yourself from this situation.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:58pm

A couple things to consider as you evaluate whether to end it:

The longer you stay the harder it will be to end it (unless he does it for you, which will also be very painful).

Being with him is preventing you from being totally open to meeting someone who is right for you.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:36pm
Well he knows how you feel and has made it clear he will never feel the same way so you will not get what you ache for.
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