boyfriend......and his family
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| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:19am |
Okay... so first of all im sorry if I come off "stuck up" at all.
I have been with my boyfriend for over two years, he is amazing. Smart, funny, handsome etc...
I have always had a reoccurring thought through out our relationship, but I always push it out of my mind by telling myself to “stop being so stuck up" but the thought still remains.
We come from very different backgrounds. Blue-collar (him) and white-collar (me). Which is fine, I don’t care about that...but his family, more so his dads side, is a different story. His father makes me very uncomfortable, not per se him but how he lets himself and his family live. My boyfriend doesn’t live with his father and actually lives a different lifestyle than his father, but his dad is his hero, so he will always be apart of his life.
I don’t want him to stop seeing his dad. But it has come to the point where I have told him that I don’t like going to his dads place anymore. What scares me is what my family thinks, they like the boyfriend but they have the same feelings about the family.
Heck, if we ever get married and have kids, I wouldn’t want my kids to go to his dads.Which could cause a problem because obviously he would want his dad to see his grandkids.
They aren’t bad people by any means... I’m just trying to write this without flat out saying everything and sounding like a bitch.
They are very different than me and my family... I hate writing this, because I know how im coming off. I hate that I can say they embarrass me.
I don’t know what to do. I love him ---- he loves his family.
Sorry for being so long. Does anybody have any advice, stories... anything?

Your feelings are your feelings but you are obviously very influenced your family. How did your boyfriend react when you said you don't want to go to his family anymore? how would you feel if he did that to you?
This is definitelysomething that needs to be resolved sooner vs later or it will destroy the relationship. He rightly loves his familyand they will be a part of his life forever, and certainly if children come along they will be grandparents.