Time to talk

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Registered: 12-26-2005
Time to talk
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 7:00pm

So, I have been "dating" Todd who is a manager at the restaurant I work at a few nights a week. We are both 26 years old. It has been pretty casual mostly just hanging out, flirting, etc. I started a new job that has kept me busy and it seems that he has been "trying a little harder." Sending me more text messages, being nicer. I guess he sees I might have something going for me so he is putting forth some effort so I stay around. I really do like him and know that he is interested but I don't know that he is giving me all that I want. He just recently went away for a few days for a bachelor party , he wanted to see me the morning before he left and then texted me the next day to tell me what a long day it wasn then again the next to tell me how much fun he was having. He returned late Tuesday afternoon and I wasn't expecting a call, he worked all day yesterday and then sent me a text message when he got off that he had such a long day at work. I called and left a message for him today. Anyway sorry for the rambling. I need to say something to him, like I think it is time we went out on a real date or something along those lines. I am not scared of his answer I just want to know where we stand and if I am wasting my time. I need someone who is willing to be a 100% committed and won't settle for less anymore. I have been too scared to say things in other relationships and it has gotten me nowhere. It is ok to pull over and ask but how do I do it without sounding threatening or scaring him away. I can't scare him away if he is truly interested and doesn't want to lose me, right? Thanks so much!!

Andrea

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Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: gal_love4me
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 7:39pm
If you want things more serious between you two you have to speak up. He seems comfy where he is, flirting, texting you and such. You seem more invested and before you get in deep it's best to have the talk. Ask him out on a real date, not hanging out, and see what he says or does. Look at his actions more than at his words. Good luck.