Growing distant by day
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| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 7:31am |
Hi, after going around with M for almost a year, I just moved in with him four months ago. it's sad that it hasn't turned out as romantic and bonding experience as I imagined. It was almost as if it pained him to vacate his drawers and make place for my stuff - I suggested moving to a bigger place, which we can afford, but M couldn't show lesser enthusiasm.
Whenever we are home, he is too tired to talk or to listen - we live like two batchelors sharing an apartment and bed.
He still visits porn websites and calls other girls hot and sexy with a 'wink' in front of me, sometimes me and other people too. I feel insulted.
He has simply forgotton the existance of florists or card and gift shops. If I call him at work, which is just once a day BTW, he almost always has no time or busy doing sth and irritated by my call.
What I just hate is he prefers playing computer games in the eve than sharing his day with me or asking me about mine. We eat while watching TV, don't even look at each other. He wouldn't know I was upset about something until I practically broke glass plates.
I come from a loving, intact family, where everyone would talk and share their days at dinner table, including my Dad. I feel disappointed and frustrated - won't we just drift apart if we go on like this? Should I move out to make it better, just like it was earlier? Am I expecting too much?

sharville...
Pianoguy's word of the day is: M-O-V-E!
Doesn't matter if you head back home, share space with a g/f, or get a place of your own. Just get the hell outta there.
What many couples often don't realize is......2-3 hour dates (or weekends together) all have specific endings! Once you decide to go FWB....you 'trapped' with someone whom you think you love....but often has habits that annoy the hell out of you!
Forget whatever good times you had with your family in the past. Look at what you have RIGHT NOW. Then ask yourself: "Is this the lifestyle and happiness I want in my life?"
Now...re-read my first sentence in this post.
Pianoguy
This kind of sounds like my last long relationship towards the end. We did eventually break up but not before I was so miserable that I thought I was in a depression. If you have talked to him about it and you still arne't seeing results, I would make a point to let him know you are looking for another place and see what he says. My relationship ended very, very badly after months of putting up with similar actions. I suggest getting out before you doubt your own sanity.
Good luck