why can't i get a boyfriend ?

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Registered: 01-21-2004
why can't i get a boyfriend ?
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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 4:23pm
I haven't been on a date for six months and i'm starting to wonder why, as does every person that i meet and looks surprised when i say i'm single. I'm successful in my law studies, people say i have a good sense of humor and that i'm really attractive. So where is the problem ? i go out once or twice a week and meet new guys often but nobody ever asks me out, although i'm not that shy and try to communicate a positive feeling !
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Registered: 04-10-2006
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 4:47pm

Laury, I have to say that in todays world it gets harder to meet people outside of your own circle of friends. I have found that those people that are very outgoing and just fun to be around are the ones that get asked out. I am naturally an introvert but to up my social life I go the other way. I make it a game. I go with friends or alone and say I am going to talk to 3 new people today. I am either flirty, fun, funny, anything that I feel like being...that tends to draw men in.

Good luck!
Nilonga

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 5:40pm
I'm not a dating expert or anything, don't go out a lot myself. However, what I've consistently found is that for a guy to want to ask a girl out there has to be that extra "spark". Something that tells him you might be interested in him that way. I've consistently found that guys get interested in me after they have seen me a few times. I hadn't noticed any particular interest before. I'm kind of shy so I think they figure it out and go by the "vibes" I'm sending more. Good luck.
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Registered: 04-07-2005
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 9:04pm

How about asking a guy out yourself instead of waiting for them to ask you? Take better control of your own love life.

Good Luck

F

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 11:51pm

Two guy friends who I met online both said they would never have approached me IRL, because they would have been intimidated by me. I don't really see why, because I'm totally laid back, but I guess you can't tell a person's personality solely on their looks/behaviour when they're out socialising with friends.

I actually have a lot of trouble meeting friends (male and female) in person. For some reason, girls feel threatened because I'm blonde and guys feel intimidated because I'm blonde. LOL I can't win!

Anyway, I've had better luck meeting people (guys and girls) online lately. Have you done the online thing?




Edited 4/10/2006 11:52 pm ET by pureatheart11

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Tue, 04-11-2006 - 12:55am

You may just be intimidating many guys, which is not a bad thing, as it starts weeding them out early ;)

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