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When to meet?
| Tue, 04-11-2006 - 5:47pm |
I recently started talking to a guy that contacted me on one of the dating websites. We had an hour long IM session at the end of which I asked him if he felt comfortable giving me his number I could call him for out next talk. So, he did give me his number. A few days later I called and we talked for two hours. The time literally flew by because we had so much fun talking. At the end of the call I gave him my cell number and he said he would call me in a few days and then he asked if I would want to meet him over the weekend. I was thrilled and said yes. When I mentioned this to my mother, she was less than thrilled. It isn't so much a matter of safety, but she thinks I should just talk to the guy on the phone more before meeting. I've gone out with a few guys that I met this way and always met fairly quickly and then at the date we had little to say to each other and it went nowhere. She thinks if I talked longer then I would find out that we would run out of things to say and I wouldn't waste the time meeting them. I think it's better to meet quickly and see if there is any real world chemistry. Who's right?

Hate to say it but mom isn't always right ;-).
I personally think you've spent too much time talking already. I've found it's best to take it to "real life" ASAP...talking too much before you meet can cause you to have a false sense of "knowing" the person. Nothing's real until you meet in person and find out if you have that chemistry. That's (IMO) what's causing you to run out of things to talk about (lack of chemistry) and talking on the phone longer isn't going to help that one way or the other.
Besides...meeting for an hour for coffee will take a lot less time than these marathon calls and IM sessions you've been having!
Sheri
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