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| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:15am |
Well to start around the beginning of my relationship i found that my boyfriend had thousands of pictures of naked woman and pornography photos of woman saved to his computer. I tried not to let it upset me too much because everyone kept telling me that all guys do it and that no matter what i did that i couldn't make him stop looking at them until one day i came over to his house and i caught him masturbating to these pictures when i got there. At that time little did i know that with as hard as it was to get him to be intitmate with me that it would only get worse. He knew then that him doing what he was doing upset me and he knew that i didn't like the fact that he had all of these photos saved to his computer and he promised me that he would take them off and stop looking at them. Well about two months later i started suspecting that he was cheating on me b/c it was like pulling teeth to get him to be intimate with me or to come and even just see me and he had started a new job working third shift and he started leaving work in the middle of the night and say that he was eating out but wouldn't get home until three hours later. Soon after this he put a half naked picture of a woman on his cell phone for me to see because he thought that it would be funny to see my reaction, well of course i didn't think it was earlier that week the whole my space site had come into the picture and he made the mistake of wanting to show me a picture that he had found that he thought was cool but in all reality it just showed wat he was looking for on this site which was girls in our age range that were single and on there for dating and relationships. well by the time he had that picture on his phone i had about had it and we had a big fight over it and i eventually stupidly gave in and forgave him and believed that he had not been cheating on me. well its been about four months now and off and on it has still been very hard to get him to come and see me and to be intimate with me. the other night i was helping him with something on his computer and i wasn't snooping or anything he was right there with me and i was going to open up something for him and there were more pictures saved to his computer i really got upset and left his house. he followed me home and when we both got there he tried to tell me at one point that he only had those pictures so he could give them to guys at work and when i asked him if he really thought i would believe that he said that he was just using that as an example and then five minutes later during our fight he was trying to sware that that was really wat they were on his computer for. four months earlier when he had made search on myspace he swore up and down that he was not making searches like that that he had just did that one to find the picture he thought was so cool. well during this fight he came out with incidentally that the pictures he found were on myspace, which is another lie he had been telling for four months. i told him at that point that there is no wonder why he never desired me be cause he was getting all of his sexual tension out on the nights he wouldn't come home to me and he was at home masterbating to these pictures and then he swore that that was not what he was doing and again five min later to cover another lie he admitted to that one and said he only did it 3 to 4 times a week. he just kept lying one after another. we just had our one year anniversery and he didn't make it a very special one he made me go to a car show to find car parts for his car he's working on. he's sort of a mama's boy and is 22 and he won't even go on trips with me because his mother will give him the third degree and might kick him out which is another one of our many problems the one thing i wanted was to stay the weekend in the city that we were in for the show and he wouldn't even do that for me and didn't take me out to dinner or even give me as little as a flower this has been my longest relationship and the first time i have had to deal with this sort of thing how can i deal with his online cheating, lying, our sex life and make him want me more i do love him with all my heart and he says he feels the same for me but if he does how can i make him show it more and make him grow up and start standing up to his mother and make him desire me like he does the woman that he looks at on the web? or should i just give up?

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