Uh oh

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Registered: 12-22-2004
Uh oh
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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 6:04pm
Ok - so i posted a thing about going on a blind date and its tonight and three hours before we planned on meeting for dinner...he calls me up and says "im uncomfortable with this blind date thing....my friends are having a barbecue. do you wanna meet up for that?" omg, so i said ok. And now im more freaking out because now i have to replan my outfit and on top of meeting him....meet all his buddies. YAY...(note the sarcasm...). I guess i have to get his buddies approval before he even decides to date me. This is a mess im telling you
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Registered: 03-03-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 7:11pm
What do you know about this guy? I'm a little concerned for you. You don't know this guy and going into a situation with all his friends could be potentially dangerous. If it's a blind date, I think people should always meet in a public place, however many people are involved. I don't want to scare you, but there are people out there who take people for slaves, even in this country. In fact, human slavery takes in the most money in illegal trade after firearms and drugs. Please, be VERY careful. Keep us posted.
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Registered: 12-22-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 7:43pm
My sister in law works with him. Hes a deputy. She told me the barbeque was going to be like all his friends and the majority of them are married and their wives and kids will be there. She trusts this guy and I trust her. And if anything happens...ill be at a cops house! lol. im not worried about that at all. I just dont know what to wear now! lol. anyways...ill let you guys know how it goes. thanks for the heads up
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Registered: 12-22-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 3:18am
ok-- all the nervousness was for nothing. the guy was super nice but there was absoulutely NO connection. he felt one but i didnt. oy...dating sucks.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: kunnarree
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 8:45am

Sorry, hon, that you didn't feel a luv connection. But I'm glad the guy was nice and you felt safe.

However, if I had read your post about meeting him at the bar-b-q first, I would have suggested that you stick to your original plans. Meeting up with a new man in the middle of all his friends would have been VERY intimidating for me. It's different if you met someone by chance at a party...

On a blind date, you want to be on equal footing with your date. That means you both get to be equally uncomfortable (smile) and you meet in neutral territory (a public restaurant or coffeeshop, etc.)

Alas, dating DOES suck. ;)