soon to be LTR?
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| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 4:05pm |
(I MEANT LDR (long distance relationship) ...hm...some weird freudian slip? LTR would be a happy thing)
Hello,
I've been seeing someone for well over a month now, we've been physical twice over the last month, but not exclusive (as of his choosing). I have to say, he's really a gentleman about things, doesn't seem to be after just sex with me -- I've been the aggressor in that area, he calls often and when he says he will.
The big question mark for me is that he's only here until August 15th when his sabbatical is up and has to return home. Which may seem like a descent amount of time to get to know a person, BUT, between now and then, we'll be in the same city here and there for only about 6 weeks due to our summer travels plans (made long in advance of meeting one another).
So, I'm seriously questioning whether it's a good idea to keep on investing myself in this. I don't see him necessarily changing his mind about becoming exclusive between now and then -- couldn't really blame him since we're not going to have long periods of time together. I mentioned my concern a while back and he replied "don't you think that that could be overcome?". ...I guess so but LDR are ROUGH.
What would you do?
L.
Edited 4/14/2006 4:12 pm ET by luky4elle
Edited 4/14/2006 4:13 pm ET by luky4elle

I'm assuming you meant to say LDR, not LTR (long distance relationship vs. long-term relationship) ;-)?
I had a bad experience with a 1.5 year LDR so I doubt I would pursue one again, but if I were to choose to do so, I would only do so 1, if there is a reasonable likelihood that one of you would be willing to move to where the other person lives (or both of you to a 3rd place together), if things work out, and 2, if both of you have the means and time to travel to see each other frequently . I would also want to make sure that our relationship goals (in general) are compatible. I know it's hard to talk about those things early one but a LDR is a much greater risk than one where distance isn't a factor, so I'd want to have as much information as possible before making the decision to pursue it.
Sheri
Thanks for the reply. YES, I meant LDR...!!!