How do I meet a guy at my age?

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Registered: 04-08-2006
How do I meet a guy at my age?
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Fri, 04-14-2006 - 11:22pm
I'm a very good looking 57 year old woman. I've tried on line dating, answering ads, etc. Any more ideas? S.
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Sat, 04-15-2006 - 10:39am
Hiya funnat...:
I just posted to the new dating rules site about the same issue. I am a loss as well in the same 1/2 century age mark. I have been divorced since 1999 and I would be happy even to go out for a cup of coffee. If you come up with any ideas please share and e-mail me.
Hoping
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Sat, 04-15-2006 - 1:40pm

Dear Hoping:

I've tried eharmony, etc., not sure what to do next. I think I'm going to just live my life day to day and enjoy every minute of it! Sheri

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Sat, 04-15-2006 - 1:57pm
Dear S,
You have gone further than I have and I am intimidated by the computer thing. Maybe I am just a chicken. Have a good holiday.
Hoping
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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 4:49pm
well...(1) what kind of age group of man are you looking for and (2) have you tried lying about your age? Men do it!
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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 6:35pm

a) If one's convenient and affordable, join a country club. Then take up golf of tennis or participate in some other club activities.
b) Same things at a local park of a country club's not available
c) Join a church or charity and get involved with some of their activities
d) Take a singles cruise
e) Have a neighborhood bar-b-que. The chances are that someone will say "You're not married? You should meet our friend Bill."
f) Take a vacation to a cool place (with at least one friend, of course - not alone). Whether it's Cancun, Los Cabos, Vegas, Paris, wherever, you'll meet people. There are probably vacations for singles just like there are singles cruises.
g) Go to a bar. I know... I know... for some reason women tend not to think of that, and the older you are probably the less appealing it sounds, but that's where guys go. Perhaps a good Irish bar where it's casual and there's a live Irish band or something.
h) Get involved in politics. All kind of social activity is involved with that.
i) Work as a volunteer at some fun event - like a golf tournament, charity run, walkathon, something like that. You can be an organizer, or perform some other function, but at least you'll be there.

For any of the above, and some I'm sure I haven't thought of, you might meet somebody, and if not, you'll be having more fun anyway.

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Tue, 04-18-2006 - 12:11pm
Volunteer work, attending seminars, taking classes, seeing if there are vacation packages catering to older singles. Good luck
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:02am

Don't mean to discourage you, but I'm just chiming in to say that I agree it becomes more challenging to meet single men when you're no longer a 20-something. In fact, from what I've been reading from women (and men) it seems to be difficult for everybody to get dates once they're out of college. It sure was a culture shock experience for me. I had to start dating again in my mid 30s after my divorce, and I also found myself doing a lot of online introductions and dating that went nowhere.

I think you've gotten some excellent suggestions here. Basically, you've got to step out of your usual routine and put yourself out in society where you can meet people you wouldn't normally have the opportunity to meet. Maybe you'd be interested in taking up golf, along with a girlfriend. You have a good chance of meeting men on the green, but make sure you and your girlfriend spend time hanging in the clubhouse, too.

If you're not already a member, join a national or local organization that caters to people in your age group. Do a search on the Internet. Most orgs host a variety of social events and outings, along with educational or political activities. If you feel awkward about approaching someone, try to get a friend or colleague to introduce you.

I wish you well!