Flowers for Him?

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Flowers for Him?
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Sat, 04-15-2006 - 3:37pm

Hi All,

I really want to send some flowers to a guy I really like, on his birthday.
How might he react? Do guys like getting flowers? What kinda arrangement is best to send?

Also, it's a weekday, and he will be at work. Is it best to send at work, or at home?

What would your choice be.

Really appreciate your help in this matter....thanks!!

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 10:12pm

I've actually had a pretty in-depth conversation about this issue with my co-workers. The answer, I believe, is that some would like it, but most would not. And that of those who would like it, they would not like the flowers delievered to work. (Because it emasculates them in front of others). But again, some guys wouldn't mind. What is this guy like?

If you want to send foliage, what about sending a potted plant to his home instead?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 11:00am

From what I've been told, guys definitely do NOT like getting flowers at work or at all really!

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Registered: 08-15-2005
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 3:20pm

Hm.....

Well, I really don't know if he will mind it or not. I am in a fix. He is a quiet-ish guy who does care about what others think, or people around him. He does have a soft side, and a practical side too, but I am sure he doesn't want to be embarrassed. But again, perhaps receiving flowers at his workplace might also make him look *good* in front of his colleugues, instead of colleugues thinking less of him?

I found an arrangement of a wooden, rectangular flat base, with three flowers and a bit of greens, very artfully arranged...very modern looking. This, I feel, is better than the traditional bouquet type in a glass vase? What do you think.

Thanks for discussing this with me.

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Registered: 08-15-2005
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 3:23pm
Oops, that's me, mia, sorry! Didn't wanna confuse you all :)
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 04-16-2006 - 3:43pm
Yeah, I still wouldn't do it but that's me and I also don't know the guy - you do.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 10:48am

I have sent flowers and potted plants to boyfriends before. They have always appreciated them and I've never heard anything to the contrary.

I feel if it's something that you want to do for him than you should do it. Most people appreciate it, most adults can withstand some ribbing from their friends, guys who do the ribbing are just jealous they didn't get anything from their girlfriends and are just immature. I think it's a nice gesture.

Maybe we need to evolve and stop putting "flowers" in the "emasculates" men category grow up a little.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 11:13am
If this were a boyfriend, I would agree with you.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 1:06pm
Again, then we need to grow up as a society, I don't do things in what society will think of me or if it's "socially acceptable" I do things because I want too, and how I feel about someone, if I felt something about someone that it dawned on me enough to send them flowers or a plant I would do it, I wouldn't really think twice about it. Now if he came back and got angry about it then it would actually determine for me whether or not I would want to be with him or not. I don't want to be with a man that wouldn't find the gesture nice or sweet. I get embarrassed by flowers too, and I'm a 32 year old woman I don't think that's gender specific. I think its mainly about having other peoples attention focused on you. But if you (general you not you specifically) can't look past that at the gesture and you are so self absorbed that you can't appreciate the thought in it, then I think that says a lot about the person and it would be a true test of whether or not I would want to be with him as well. Like I've said I've sent flowers and plants and I've never had anyone be anything but gracious and appreciative.


Edited 4/17/2006 1:47 pm ET by sniffle_sally
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 12:20pm
I think it's a sweet thought but send them to his home - his workmates might razz him
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 3:30pm
A girl sending me flowers??? I'd have a heart attack and die. But I'd die happy.

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