Am I too jealous??
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| Mon, 04-17-2006 - 1:21pm |
Hey People, this is my first post here...
I have this gf, we have been going out for about 3 months now and even though it has been so little the time we have spent, I have started feeling something rather strong for her, we talk a lot, tell each other just ebout everything, but the other day she told me about one of her ex boyfriends (one of those "special" ones, her firts bf and now they are friends) and I just felt something I had never felt before... I got so jealous thet I stood up and left and on my way home I was just furious beyond control, speeding and averything.
I never said a word to her, I apoligized for my behavior later that day. she doens't know what happened I was affraid of telling her I got jealous so I made something up.
The problem here is that I'm a very calm person, I'm usually capable of controling my empotions, but this time it just scared me how upset I got, even now I think of her ex and get very upset.
Please, any advice on what to do would be great, I don't want to ever lose control like I did the other day, I even try to convince my self that she's with me now and that her ex is past story, but it doesn't help much.
Thanks

adrian2006...
PG is only guessing, but it sounds like your emotions (for this lady) are getting slightly "out of control?" Now unless the 2 of you have established the WE'RE EXCLUSIVE clause in your relationship, there's absolutely no reason why your g/f can't speak to or even date other men! .
As for the EX-BF's....it's entirely possible brought 'em up for 2 reasons:
1. She's trying to compare your habits to theirs....or
2. She's trying to see how you react!
Obviously, you jumped the gun on reason #2.
Two suggestions:
Bring the lady a bouquet of the freshest flowers you can find (just don't steal 'em from somebody's garden)....and out and out ask her if she'd refrain talking about her old B/F's in the future....simply because the idea of her being with others really bothers you!
And of course...you WON'T bring up any of YOUR EX's to HER either......correct?
Pianoguy