I just don't know what to think

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Registered: 12-30-2005
I just don't know what to think
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:33am
I am 29 and he is almost twice my age. We have been friends for almost the last year and just recently had sex for the first time, last weekend. Things were pretty normal over the past week, but took a turn for the worst, it seems. He has been very consistent about calling me when he said he would. When we first met, he invited me out places a few times and never followed through. Just about as many times, he invited me out and kept his word. We are both very busy and work late most nights, have a very active social life and neither one of us have been willing to "make time" for face-to-face quality time. I do wish that it would happen more, but I am dating other men (not sleeping with them), so I am having that need in my life fulfilled. This past week, he invited me to dinner for today. That was on Thursday night. I spoke with him late on Friday night and he seemed a little sarcastic, but when I called him on it, he said that he didn't mean it that way and if he sounded that way, he was just busting my chops. He said that he would call on Saturday and didn't. When he did call today, I was still asleep and returned his call a short while later. He told me about how he had taken the time to go shopping to cook dinner today and he had called to ask his mother about the recipe. He then told me that he and his children did eat, because they were all hungry. He did not mention anything to me about actually coming over for dinner. I told him I was still in bed, relaxing and he just said "yeah, stay there"...not in a sarcastic tone or anything. When I told him I was going to go to do something about dinner, he just said "oh" and that was the end of the conversation. In your honest opinion, should I (a) mention to him why I think this was wrong and express my disappointment, give things another chance and be very guarded until he proves me otherwise (b) say nothing and never speak to him again (c) express why I think this was wrong, my disappointment and then never speak to him again? Let me know what you think, PLEASE HELP!!!