confused..........

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2004
confused..........
2
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 3:58am
Somebody please offer me any form of advice and/or suggestions. I'd greatly appreciate it!!
Ok...to make a long story short: I've been thinking about my ex boyfriend ALOT lately! I'm soo confused, I dont know what I should do?! We were together for 2 years in college. We were each other's college sweethearts and first-loves. I broke up w/him out-of-the blue w/o a warning- nothing. I was confused, lost, scared - I was in a phase of soul-searching and wanting to be alone. I never told him any of this when I broke up w/him. He was devastated, heart-broken, and bitter. This was 5 years ago. We have always been in contact in some way or another, since we have mutual friends. Recently I apologized to him for the past. He replied by saying we have a love/hate relationship. What does that mean?? Two years ago he told my friends that we were soul-mates. I'm confused. I think I still have feelings for him. I think I might still be in love w/him, but I don't know what I should do. I've tried to ask him to hang out, but he'd only come out in group settings, not one-on-one w/me. there were times that he'd say he has plans w/a "friend." Nobody knows if he's seeing someone, but it doesn't seem like it to me. Should I move on? Or should I confess to him how I've been feeling about him? Will he reject me?? Is it worth the risk??
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 5:38am

clouds77...

PG's 2 cents:

A "love-hate relationship" is when friendship exists at a distance. You can communicate very well with another human being---providing you're not seeing that same person day-in and day-out!

The reason? When the two of you get too close too often...unpleasant sparks are likely to ignite!

While you may THINK a reconciliation is possible, it's obvious that the man you were with DOESN'T! So chalk this chapter of your life up as OVER...and move on to the next one!

Pianoguy

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:56am
He's afraid of getting hurt again. And he probably still feels bitter over the last breakup. Experiences like these change some people and the change is permanent. If you'd like, continue to be his friend, but don't wait around for him to pick up where you left off. Even if he does come back, things will probably not be the same.

Photobucket - Video and Image Hosting