Help! Confusing Situation

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Help! Confusing Situation
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 8:21pm

My best guy friend and I with some good friends hung out the other night and while playing a game of spin the bottle (i know its childish...we were all having fun)we ended up kissing. Little bit later we kissed again and spent the night together - only cuddled, nothing major happened. WHile cuddling though, he did make a move to get my bra off, which I did not allow, simply because we were staying in my friends bed and felt wrong about it.
The one thing I did notice was when he presumed me to be asleep, he would brush my hair aside and give me little kisses on my forehead and eyes. Something I found to be quite endearing and sweet.

We've gotten pretty close in past several months and I've learned his philosophy on relationships :
1) He DOES NOT have friends with benefits
2) He has acquaintances with benefits (not friends)
3) Believes in romances that take off right away but do not develop
I also know that he was burned in a previous relationship and that he feels serious relationships are very very scary.

Based off of this philosophy, I don't fit in any of those categories. Is that a good thing? What should I do next? I don't want to blow off the other night and make it seem like it meant nothing but likewise I don't want to tell him how I feel because it might scare him off.