WTF??? why does he keep calling?

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WTF??? why does he keep calling?
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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 7:10am

Ok, I am asking the obvious but I want confirmation. This guy I had, (please note HAD) been kind of dating for a couple of months (I have known him since around nov 2005) but we cooled it off because of weird issues such as him kissing a girl in front of me!!!! (but we never said we were starting a relationship ever--we had only just met recently) well anyway, he has been calling me almost every week. We end the phone conversations with HIM saying that we should get together sometime soon, or " well I am sure I will see you out at some point" ...or " call me and let me know what you are doing this weekend/ or if anything is going on".... etc etc. every week for a month it has been like that. I have been friendly but vague, saying that i do not not know what i am going to do on the weekends, or that I already have plans. But I have been nice and making sure to ask him about what is going on in his life etc. I have not been calling him, he has been calling me.

So I saw him tonight at a club...he acted like he did not see me and I am 99.1% sure he did see me.........so what the heck??? why is he calling me at all?????? that is my question. is he just calling me because he wants to be adored????? and wants the attention? From the time he kissed the girl in front of me I should have never spoken to him again, but the peacemaker in me rationalized it by thinking we never DID set boundaries so it is understandable that this could happen, although completely rude and tasteless on his part. since then he did completley appologize etc, and I finally came to the conclusion that maybe we could just be friends and try that. but tonight is ridiculous that he pretended he does not see me.. but then had been calling me and saying that hopefully we would see each other soon? what gives????? am i merly plan b and a backup??that is what is is, huh??

So for the last time, do you agree that I should forget this guy completley??? delete him from myspace/home phone/etc? (I did a month ago delelte his # from my cell phone so I would NOT be tempted to call him anymore).....as I ask this and reread this that question does indeed sound stupid, but I was wondering why he would even keep calling me??????? have any of you had this sort of experience and gained insight??? I'd like to think of myself a sweet loving understanding person. but this is not friendship, this is not healthy. but i hate getting to the all to well known feeling of cutting off a person from my life and knowing that if i do run into him ( it will be unavoidable upon occasion) that i have this negativity to deal with. guess that is just part of life...we cannot get along with everyone I suppose. but that totally sucks that I am forced to deal with it this way. he should be completetly cut out from my life right??? i am worth more than this. he does not deserve my time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:34am

lothlorienstar6...

PG suggests you read the first and last sentences of your last paragraph? You're contradicting yourself.

If you don't feel you're worth the man's attention....ignore him and go about your business. If you want to continue down the wishy-washy "I can't make up my mind about him" path that you're currently taking....you'll never resolve your problem!

There's no point in having a friendship...let alone a relationship...with anybody who makes you unhappy!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:57am

Yes, it sounds like he wants an ego boost...and yes, you should delete and block him and move on.

Sheri