Is he interested?

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Is he interested?
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Fri, 12-15-2006 - 2:35pm

Hey everyone! I was wondering what you think of this situation….Sorry it's kind of long.

The other night I was at a coffee shop and I saw a guy I know from high school. I haven't seen him since graduation (about 3 years ago). We weren't really friends in high school although we knew eachother and would talk/flirt a little bit occassionally. He was kind of an immature popular type and although I always thought he was hot I never really cared much. We also didn't have any of the same friends.

So anyway, I walked by him and the person he was studying with and he acknowledged me so I thought I would stop and say hi. He mentioned that I looked different and that he wasn't sure if it was me because my hair is blonde now. He seemed nervous and kind of blushed I think We talked for a few minutes and then I went back and sat with my friend. After his study-partner left, he came over to me and asked me if I remembered someone from high school. He told me that the guy is having a party Friday and that I should come. He also seemed nervous and when I said sure it was like he didn't know what to do. So I offered him my number and he took it and left. It turns out that my friend works with the guy who's having the party so even if he doesn't call me I could still go with her.

My question is… Do you think he was just being friendly or is he interested? Also, if he doesn't call or text, should I just go to the party anyway to show that I am interested in case he needs an extra push? Do you think that if he doesn't call he's just nervous? What do ya think?

Needless to say...I'm very very attracted to this guy and I would definitely be willing to date him. What should I do....

Thanks! :-)

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Registered: 12-15-2006
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 4:45pm

I would go to the party even if he doesn't call. Many guys are really freaked out by making that first call and he might just be afraid of rejection. He would not have invited you to the party unless he was a little interested. You are in a great position because you have a friend that was also invited so you have someone to hang out with and won't feel out of place.

Basically what do you have to lose by going to the party? If you go and you two talk and hang out and really hit it off then he will probably call you. If you don't hit it off then you know he isn't right for you and you can move on. I would go because otherwise you'll wonder what would have happened if you did go (that is no fun trust me I have been there before).

Good Luck!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 1:08am

lil_diva8...

Pianoguy agrees with the previous poster...GO TO THE PARTY!

But expect nothing 'seriously romantic' to occur between you and the man you're interested in. FACE IT! If he's gonna 'put the moves on you'---let him take the first step!

Otherwise, just enjoy the holiday party...along with everybody else!

Pianoguy (who is attending and playing for 2 different parties this weekend).

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 1:50pm
ditto!