Is there a fine line....Opinions please!

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Is there a fine line....Opinions please!
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:54am

What’s the deal??

Ok, this question is for the guys and the ladies: Is there a thin line between a man having a roving eye, and a man just “being a man” and constantly checking out women (even when he’s with a woman)?
Just want to get some opinions. My friends and I are single, and we’re casually dating guys. Some of them don’t make it obvious that they’re checking out women when they’re with us; others are a little discreet; some are just plain OBVIOUS. What do y’all think? Is it truly rude, disrespectful, or just the way men are.
Guys, do you think that it’s disrespectful for you to do it when you’re with your lady friend, even if she’s just a woman you’re seeing? Does it mean anything??

All opinions, insight, etc. are appreciated

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 9:02am
If you MUST look at other women in the room while on a date, do it only on the way to and from the restroom. Otherwise you risk looking like an immature cad. Iri
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 7:20pm
Many different opinions exist. Some people don't care what their SO does in their company or not in their company. For me, I feel that one can be discreet about admiring the opposite sex. I try to be that way. Men have mentioned to me, that they didn't appreciate me checking out a guy, so I know that it bothers them too. Men do it for a variety of reasons (being obvious): some like getting their girl jealous because they (the guys) think it means that the girls care (not true), some are obvious because they like making the woman that they are with feel insecure, maybe because they feel insecure, some men just think its no big deal and the woman needs to "get over it", some do it because they are about to leave the relationship and/or become unfaithful and some are just immature and unfeeling. I am sure there are more explanations, but these are the ones that I have witnessed myself. I always feel bad for the woman whose man does that in her company, and I always see a really hurt face.