Am I only Mrs. Right now?

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Registered: 07-22-2006
Am I only Mrs. Right now?
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Sun, 12-24-2006 - 11:45pm
So my boyfriend of almost a year now ended up getting very upset with me in front of his parents when I lost his camera.They were here for the holidays...I felt so embarrassed and mortified I just wanted to cry...He didn't yell at me in front of them or anything just stood silent becuase he was upset about the loss of his 1000 dollar camera......I started to cry and then he felt bad and then later on said that if he hadn't gotten his raise ...(He makes six figures BTW) he'd have been more upset but he tried to contain himself...So when we went back I felt so bad I gave him what was in my wallet which was 200 dollars...He said I didn't have to but I insisted and he accepted...The thing is I make like 1/4 of what he makes and he knows that....then I started crying and he saw I was so upset he gave me my christmas present which I think he was saving for my anniversary present in 2 months...It was a diamond heart necklace but it comes from one of those cheap places that is advertised on tv and I know it cost like 150 dollars. This guy is really well off and I am starting to feel as if he isn't really in love with me...He just like sbeing with me and he'll be gone for 6 months as a part of his new promotion working in another office in Paris! He says he loves me and wants me to be there when he gets back and all in all he does treat me well except he's so cheap sometimes with me...Do you all think that I'm his good time girl and not someone he's super serious about? We've been dating for a yea rand he hasn't talked about marriage...He is 36 and I am 30. Please advise. Thanks!
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 12-25-2006 - 7:11pm

This is an interesting story, I'm sorry you lost your boyfriend's camera but maybe it is a good thing you did.

I don't really know how your boyfriend feels about you but he does sound a little on the cheap side. If your boyfriend has such expensive toys why is it that he does carry insurance on them? The fact he took your $200 and then offered a $150 necklace which might have been a gift for another holiday, that would probably get me thinking.

Also, I have found that words are cheap but actions are much more expensive. Him telling you that he loves you and wants you to be there when he gets back sounds pretty nice but you aren't telling us about his big plans for the future for the two of you. Commitment? Marriage? House?

Of course he wants you to be there when he gets back, he wants as many options as possible. Let's quit worrying about how he feels about your and start worrying about how you feel about him. If he is cheap now, the situation probably won't improve.