Should I do the booty call thing?...
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| Wed, 12-27-2006 - 12:55am |
The 27-year old came back. And I don't think it's to bake cookies...Most of you didn't believe it when I told you he was obsessive... He just can't let it go, even after I let him have it. After saying all that awful stuff to him and after he deleted me from his myspace page, this is what he sent tonight:
Him: "I'm sorry i had to find you from another profile, its an older one as you can see... but anyhow. I wanted to make peace... you may be done with me, and by words i would seem so... sadly, i do not want to end a note on a bad one. It was christmas, i felt like calling and wishing you and your family a happy holidays. but not sure how you would react... i do not want to echange heated words. i just want to make peace. all is to be forgiven, and all to be dust in the past... Hope you can find it in yourself to forgive me, as i do for you regardless of your answer...
With peace.
PS I don't check this mail ever. you can feel free to write me on the other site if you wish.
God bless and happy new years."
Well, the rules have changed, it seems. I'm not going to deal with him again in terms of considering a serious relationship. I think he may be a bit immature for that, seeing as how I'm 41. But, now I get to have sex with him if I want. A friends with benefits or a booty call relationship might work. I'm going to wear him out! :)
Several of you on here thought I was chasing him. Well, this proves it was the other way around, Like I said.
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Hi. I don't feel like he's chasing me, but I do feel he's being obsessive because I talked to him as bad as you can talk to any individual. He didn't even do anything wrong, just decline to date me.
I told him he was a leech, An emotional drain, not a Christian, shady, dark, a liar, insecure, needy, a LOSER. Then he deleted me from his myspace profile. Is there a man on here that would come back after a woman said those things to him??
Is he that in need of friends that he has to come after me again?
I already have feelings for him. He may not be mature enough for the kind of relationship I'm looking for. But, I am looking for more sexual partners in the meantime, so why not? He may just want a friendship, but if he goes for sex, why not?
editted to add: When I say chasing, there were a few posters on the "Ask Mr. Answer Man" board that said I was stalking him. But, look here, he came back to me. It appears as friends, but as I said above, I wouldn't mind having sex with him. And the thing is, I told him before I said all that mean stuff to him, that I wanted him for sex. So, I kinda wonder would he go to all this trouble to recapture someone on his friend's list after they dissed him as badly as I did...
Edited 12/27/2006 8:20 am ET by purity2006
Edited 12/27/2006 8:27 am ET by purity2006
>he 27-year old came back. And I don't think it's to bake cookies...Most of you didn't believe it when I told you he was obsessive... He just can't let it go, even after I let him have it.<
Actually it's YOU who is obsessive. You are not required to write him back. Additionally, on Myspace, there is a function to block users and make your profile private. You have not done so.
His message does not say anything at all about having sex. That's YOUR projection. So do what you want - it's obvious that you're going to do so.
emdeesa: "Actually it's YOU who is obsessive."
How? What did I do?
emdeesa: "You are not required to write him back. Additionally, on Myspace, there is a function to block users and make your profile private. You have not done so."
My profile *is* private. His is too. I didn't block him because he said he was going to delete me and he did...He used one of his other profiles to send me a message. Why? What does he want? All that for friends, emdeesa??
I don't want to talk to him anymore. I will be his friend, as long as I can get sex out of him.
editted to add: emdeesa: "His message does not say anything at all about having sex. That's YOUR projection. So do what you want - it's obvious that you're going to do so."
This was his first message since coming back. What's he gonna say?, "Let's hit the sheets" on his first message to me?? C'mon emdeesa...
Edited 12/27/2006 8:59 am ET by purity2006
You REALLY do not realize how ridiculous you sound, do you? The guy, for whatever reason, wanted to make some sort of peace with you. Nothing in his email even gives the slightest connotation that he is interested in sleeping with you or being with you in any way, shape or form. You are projecting what you want/need to believe onto this. I recall your writings on this subject and you need to get it through your head how utterly pathetic and desperate you come across when talking about this person. OBSESSIVE. Maybe this guy is just so much of a kook he needs the attention as much as YOU DO, which is why he contacted you again. Perhaps he wanted to see if you would react, KNOWING that you would. I have a hard time believing that a supposedly 41 year old woman would propose some of the scenerios I've seen you post about. You, again, come across as desperate at the very least...if your situations are even true and you are not some 14 year old kid looking for attention.
Really does it really matter what a bunch of unknown people on a message board say?
Honestly why would you want to have sex with him? You say why would a man want to come back to a women who said all those things to them, sure some men will. They like the push/pull of relationships. Fighting/making up etc. The same question could be asked of you, why would you want a man like that??? It doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship for either one of you.
Smile,
Deirdre
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Bulls eye.
sheisunusual: "Maybe this guy is just so much of a kook he needs the attention as much as YOU DO, which is why he contacted you again."
This I can believe...
sheisunusual: "Perhaps he wanted to see if you would react, KNOWING that you would."
I didn't react. I'm going to let him stew. I hope I haven't offended anyone on here that wasn't my intention. The only way he will get my attention again is if he leaves this current gf of his-it won't work out anyway. Or if he wants a friends with benefits relationship.
And he doesn't just want to make peace. He wants to be friends. He is weird. Not your normal guy, but he's cute, and I do wonder how he would be in bed...
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