Need Help!! I'm Petrified

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-08-2006
Need Help!! I'm Petrified
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Wed, 12-27-2006 - 8:42am

Hi all,

I really need your help. This is regarding the person I met from the other state. I wont go into specifics, but all i'm going to say is things took a very different turn and something very bad happened last night. This person has made it obvious that they have certain connections and that they have been seeing exactly what i've been doing online, how many times I visit sites, what sites, when, etc etc. This made me petrified. We had a bit of a falling out over me accusing him of lying about something, then I was proven wrong and after I sent him some messages and an email, he said he would call me possibly that night. My intention was to leave him alone. I even deleted his number from my phone and deleted all messages and everything to make sure I didnt call him anymore. Then at 1am I started getting texts from a strange #. Basically what happened is the guy sent my messages to a friend of his and asked him to send me a message with a very cruel (supposed to be funny) recording on it making reference to a "rejection hotline". The hotline came from a # from his state, so I knew it had something to do with him. Keep in mind, this is waking me up at 1am and scaring me to death thinking i'm getting in trouble. Then I received a message FROM my phone # TO my phone # (and also i'm guessing to this friend of his) asking "when did you send her the text". I then saw what was going on, and that he had this done to me. I couldnt fall asleep until 5:30am and I had to be at work at 7:30, and I am still thinking about this. I am scared because now I see that this guy has the power to see all this stuff i've been doing all along, and god knows what else he knows. I will just say that he has very powerful connections that mustve gotten him this info (it was all true). Now I have this horrible feeling that i'm being watched, not to mention the cruel joke that was played on me. I dont know what to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-08-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:19am
And before you say to report it to his ISP or the police, I seriously doubt that would do one bit of good because he is VERY smart with this stuff because of his career. He made certain it was well planned so that it cannot be connected to him in any way. It is not coming from his ISP. It is coming from some strange mail provider that I never heard of, and they used a phone number that is not affiliated with them in any way. They did a good job of making it so that it cannot be traced back to him. In fact, they made it look as though ONE OF THEM WAS SENT FROM ME TO ME!!! That is what I cant believe. Plus, he did not threaten me in any way. He just sent me a cruel joke in a text message.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:29am

You need to change your phone numbers immediately. Clear your cache in your computer, clear your computer history. If you have a friend who is handy with computers, have them take a look at your system and clear everything. Change all passcodes and user names for everything.

Something is wrong with this guy and you need to get him out of your life. Luckily he lives in another state.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 3:10pm
You need to report this guy to the authorities. He is using the telephone to harass you and that is a violation of a federal statute. He can visit the ivillage site and look at your posts. You might want to get a new "name" here at ivillage. Keep a log of what he does and when he does it and talk to your lawyer.