Guy on the REBOUND!

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Registered: 01-09-2007
Guy on the REBOUND!
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:30pm
So, I need advice. Over the past few weeks I've been talking with a guy and we've gone out a couple times. I recently found out that him and his ex-girlfriend broke up only a month ago. It was a pretty nasty break up. She cheated on him. We've talked about it a little bit. I've been there, been cheated on. I know exactly how he feels. I'm just leary of the "rebound" cliche. I don't know if I should let this guy go and tell him to call me when it's been longer and he's not so hurt. Or see where it goes. I do really like him, but I really prefer not getting my heart broke again.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:28pm
If he is behaving hurt and venting alot about her and the break up then he needs a shoulder to cry on, not a girlfriend. If your gut is telling you to wait, then wait.
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Registered: 07-10-1999
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:16pm
I think I would just keep things at a friendship level for now. That way you can continue getting to know him without being the rebound girl. If you're both still available and interested after he's had time to get over her, then you can give dating a try at that point.
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Registered: 01-01-2007
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 6:34pm
I agree with everyone. I also think you should keep a slight distance only because you might become attached to this guy and it can still hurt if he doesn't show you the same attention later on, since right now like they said, he wants you there to vent.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:01pm
Sometimes rebound relationships do work out. A friend of mine actually got a great friendship out of a rebound, so perhaps slow it down, see where things go
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:08am

It does sound like he's on the rebound - perhaps you'd be better off just being friends for now if you can handle that, or else, yes, tell him

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