I need serious HELP!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2007
I need serious HELP!!!!
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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 1:47am

Im in a big problem right now. Hopefully someone can help me. I met this guy online and we went out on a date. He seemed like a nice guy so we went out on a second date. On the second date we came back to my place and things got a little out of hand, we didnt have sex but we messed around a little. The problem is that im not interested in this guy for any serious relationship. He is talking about something serious but I dont know how to tell him that I dont want anything to do with him anymore. Please help me. What should I do? What do I tell him??

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:50am

There are several ways out of this. Since you met him online you can write him and email telling him that after further consideration this relationship is not something you want to pursue. If he calls you can tell him the same thing.

"Messing around" obligates you to nothing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2004
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:11pm

<< He is talking about something serious but I dont know how to tell him that I dont want anything to do with him anymore. Please help me. What should I do? What do I tell him??>>

This isn't a "problem" ... its just basic dating etiquette. You've been on 2 dates and you're not feelin' it ... so, you politely let him know that "it was nice meeting you but I don't think we're a match" ... and you take your leave. Two dates obligates you to nothing.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 01-16-2007 - 5:06pm
Why is this a big problem? Have you never had to break up with someone before? This is not even really a break up. You have been out with him only twice - you don't even have a relationship with him. If you are going to do online dating for any period of time, you will need to get to know the "art" of telling someone that you are not a match. It's not a big deal. You just have to tell him either by email or by phone that you enjoyed meeting him but that you don't think you are a good match. An email is easier and quite appropriate at this stage of online dating. I think after 3-4 dates or more, you at least owe them a phone call, but a couple dates, no biggie.

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