Can it be real?

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Registered: 12-04-2006
Can it be real?
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 3:39pm
I guess I’m probably asking a question that many people have already asked but here it goes again. Is it possible to connect with someone so well in a short period of time that you already feel that you love them and want to spend your life with them? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not rushing into anything crazy. I’m not that kind of person to do things irrationally but I truly feel that there is that permanent connection there. And the funny thing is, is that he feels the same way. I hadn’t shared my feelings because I just thought I was being crazy but he started talking to me one day about it and it’s like he was talking out of MY head. Any thoughts or suggestions? All advice is welcome. Thanks.
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Registered: 01-15-2007
In reply to: redlady74
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 3:58pm
I think that is true that you can meet someone and have that rare and special connection and you should appreicate that good luck to you

 

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Registered: 03-24-2005
In reply to: redlady74
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 5:20pm

OMG! I cant believe this is happening to someone else too. I just was trying to start a new thread here about the same feeling I have about a guy. Its so much driving me crazy! I could not sleep the entire last night since I felt he was always in front of my eyes. I was thinking of him, what we spoke the other day, how and what questions he asked, when he was shy etc etc! I was /am really happy but I also have a fear of where this might go and if I am dreaming too much!

Yes, maybe we should start believing in this! Good luck to you :-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: redlady74
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:36pm

I absolutely think it CAN be real, but the only way to know for sure is to allow time to pass.

I've definitely had that feeling several times in my life and only once (so far!) did it turn out to be a lasting relationship (well, it lasted 10 years, at least). The other times, even though I felt that way, it wasn't meant to be and things turned bad within about 3-6 months. But because I was so ga-ga with the "I just know" feelings, I didn't pay enough attention to the bad signs and I stayed in a couple of those relationships way too long.

So now I enjoy the feeling but I make "time will tell" my mantra.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: redlady74
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:36pm
Congrats to you and redlady74! It is not very often that people hear about people in love anymore. Enjoy this time in your relationship. Eventually some bumps in the road occur and issues pop up, but if a good foundation is laid then you'll breeze through those moments as well.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: redlady74
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:59pm
Great points! the "ga ga" feelings are just what they are...and time will tell whether it was hormones or the real thing. But when women are in that state of mind, we do tend to ignore some of those red flags because we are FINALLY living the romance novel dream. Who wants the bubble to burst? But who said that romance follows the hype and novels? Yet it is something we all strive for...that feeling.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: redlady74
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 2:16pm
I do believe it's possible to connect with someone on a deep level quickly but you can also start slower with someone else and have that blossom into a deep love connection. So yes it wonderful but yes, take things slow and see how things unfold.
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Registered: 08-10-2003
In reply to: redlady74
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:49pm

When I kissed my husband for the first time the earth shook. I knew he was the man I was going to marry. Only a few weeks after that magical kiss, we decided to move in together. We've been happily married for ten years and he is my soul mate. We both knew how unique our relationship was from the start.

If you know it in your heart, go with it. Its so hard to find the perfect person.

Good Luck!